I really need a better relationship with my mom right now I have a really hard time being in her presence. she's a really good mom i just feel like she shows favortism to my twin sister. I tried to tell her this but she don't understand.
2006-07-25 06:00:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I need to know from a christian stand point I can't just cut my mom off but I feel like now I'm at a place where I don't desire a relationship with her anymore but at the sme time I do
2006-07-25 06:12:11 · update #1
I also have done lots to try to save our relationship I broke up with my BF cause she didn't like him and I really liked him!!!! I still do and it's been months.
2006-07-25 06:38:44 · update #2
Some moms dont realize when they have favourites in the family, even after they are told about it. It is something in their nature to be the way they are. But if you want to bring about a change, and from what you write, I get the feeling that you just love your mom and want more of her than you are actually getting, then that change should be brought about by you. Afterall, you do say she is a really good mom! So give her some credit for it on her face for a change. Appreciate what she does for you all once in a while. Give her a good hug and kiss and tell her that you do love her very much. Dont do it with the intention of changing her favoritism ways. Just do it because she deserves to get back something from those who she brought into the world. When children show appreciation and love towards their parents, you cannot imagine how much happiness it brings to their hearts. You will know this when you have your own. I can assure you a hundred percent - yes 100% - that you will observe a change in your mom with this great treatment. You are right she dont understand now - but she will when you have done your duty - and she will probably be embarrassed at the treatment she gave you. You know, many times, you can win over people whom you cannot get along with, by just giving them a little love, no matter how difficult it may be for you in the beginning. Good luck to you.
2006-07-25 06:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by someone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Tionna_P.
There will always be favoritism with any relationships! It is rare when a person like any other person (not just relatives) the exact same amount! Now your mother might not understand because she may favor your twin sister by maybe a tad bit, but not a significant enough amount to see the difference.
The best thing you can do is just continue to be a good daughter and never be negative! Just try to make dates with your mom (and make sure you ask your twin sister if she wants to go to even if she doesn't want to, just to show that you aren't jealous. Plus you wouldn't want to start beef with your twin sister now would you?)
Best of luck to you! Hope it gets better!
2006-07-25 06:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by kirbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can understand what I'm about to say.
Sometimes what appears to you as favoritism is really the knowledge of a parent knowing what is best for each child. You didn't give an instance, but I knew a 13 year old girl who felt the same about her sister. I explained that she is stronger and more independent and needs less parenting than sis. I assured her she'd be more successful as an adult......it was true. She was able to hold up under life's pressures more confidently. She's now 37.
2006-07-25 06:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope I can help you. I went through the same thig with my mom. i loved her but we were so darn much alike as well as in age. she was very young . I just wrote her a beautiful heart felt letter. a few days before this, i sent her a 8 page letter about what i had felt all my life. sometimes life hits you hard and the same in return. Now she knows how hurt i was all my life, then on the other hand she knows i love her dearly. I still havn;t heard from her. but i can bet you she has respect for me now. just be honest, some times the truth hurts, but in time you can also let her know that you still love her dearly. beside i know you do shes your mommy.
I wish you all the best in resolving your situation.
2006-07-25 06:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!
I see this with my daughter show favoritism between her son and her daughter.
I squawk when I have seen enough and believe it or not, it is getting better.
But I am the mom and can say something.
If you have grandparents around, talk to them, if they see it, then ask them for help.
Maybe they could say something about it, not in front of you kids of course, but they could also reassure her that she is a good mom and tack fully mention how her favoritism is affecting the other children in the family and the kids have gone to the grandparents asking for help in opening the door of awareness and communication.
2006-07-25 06:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. My daughter and I are in the same boat. She doesn't care for me at all right now because I don't care for the things she is doing/has done. She has a 9 yr old brother who I feel more close to right now. I think with time things will get better. She knows I love her and I know she loves me. So give it time.
2006-07-25 06:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by kattychat57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your undertaking is obviously very unhappy suitable now and it desires some adjustment. you're unquestionably old sufficient to be residing your existence self sufficient of your mom. you haven't any longer any criminal duty to grant for her and he or she has wide-spread that she does not deserve something from you. i could advise you to bypass removed from her thoroughly and stay your individual existence. this does not advise this is nice to formally end your relationship along with her, yet you will unquestionably ought to shop your distance from her bodily, financially and emotionally. attempt to forget approximately on the subject of the previous and concentration on having a great attitude in the direction of your destiny. Do what you need to do to income contentment and don't enable any root of bitterness to break your excitement. perchance you need to bypass to her at Christmas and stay in touch. If she emails you in a adverse way, exchange your e mail handle.
2016-10-08 07:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice would be for you to be yourself! Don't worry about the favoritism - that is your Mom's worry/problem. Just let your mom know you love her, and treat her the way you want to be treated. Listen to her, before you talk, give her the opportunity to talk about things. Repeat back something she has told you that helped you - she will love that.
2006-07-25 06:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by BuyTheSeaProperty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend to be the other twin just to see what she really gets from your mom. You might be surprised. m
2006-07-25 06:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about completely ignoring everybody till they've got to notice ur there? moving out for a few days?
I know what it feels like. i sympathize
2006-07-25 06:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by MiniEinstein 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋