Even though the picture is in my 15 yr old step daughter's room why do I have to be subject to look at my husbands ex wife everyday
2006-07-25 05:56:28 · 15 answers · asked by New k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can understand your feelings very well. I have been threw that myself. When I got married to my ex-husband, I went threw that whole house and I repainted, replaced all the curtains, anything and everything that was in that house that reminded me of her. I wanted "her"out of the house, no she did not live there, but I wanted anything that was "her" out.
His daughter did not live with us, we (he) got visitation with her, she would go places with me or us as a family.She was cleaning her purse out one day and I noticed that she had a picture of her mom in there but not one of her dad or me, now that hurt my feelings as I had gave her wallet sizes pictures of her dad & I,(three all together, one of me, one of him, one of us together) yet she won't carry one of her dad. She would put her moms picture out where she could see it while visiting with us. I did over look it as that was her mom.
On your case, she does have that picture of her mom in her room. Please don't make it hard on her cause it could end up causing hard feelings between you and her. Because you are more or less trying to stand between her and her mom by not wanting her picture out to where "she" can see it. I could understand you getting upset IF the picture of her mom was in the living room or where it could be seen at most any giving time but is not, it is in "her" room.
2006-07-25 08:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 19:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very selfish of you. Try looking at the woman in that photograph as the mother to your stepdaughter instead of your husband's ex-wife. I don't know if you have any children of your own, but would you like it if your child's stepmother complained about her having a photo of you in her room? It's not fair to resent the kind of natural bond that a daughter has with her mother. I hope this resentment isn't interfering with the relationship you have with your stepdaughter. Please try to look at this from a different view and be a little more mature about it.
2006-07-25 07:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by carmilysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, like 18? You sound like a real witch of a woman. If my step mother said I couldn't have a picture of my own MOTHER who gave me LIFE, I would try to kill my step mother in her sleep. However, I have a mature step mother who encourages my relationship with my mother, and even gives me money to take my mom out to lunch and movies. I love my stepmother and call her by her name, and always respect her intruction because I trust her.
2006-07-25 06:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you married him, you accepted her because she is your step-daughters mother. I have 3 step-kids and not only do I see his picture in their rooms (Even though I have been more of a father to them their whole lives), he now wants to be "more involved in their lives" so I see him several times a week. I accepted it and now even invite him over occassionally. You have to deal with it.
2006-07-25 06:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her room and her mom. Your the adult here so you should just accept the fact that your husband and this woman had a child together and that she will always be a part of their lives. Don't go in the room if you don't have to.
2006-07-25 06:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
Your step-daughter has every right to have a picture of her Mom in her room.
2006-07-25 06:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will always be her mother. You knew she existed before you marrried. You need to get over it.
If she is 15, why do you go into her room everyday? She is old enough to pick up after herself.
2006-07-25 06:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go in her room then if it bothers you that much. It will always be your step daughters mother no matter what.
2006-07-25 07:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by girlpower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine.. if you would have gone through this situation yourself, how would you feel if your step-mother objected to the pictures of your mom?
Always put yourself in the shoes before you point the finger...
2006-07-25 06:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by Affu Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋