i had my heart broken. when the hell will i stop thinking about her? this is the second time and the first one was when i was 14, that took like six years.. am i in for another six? what helps? what makes it heal faster???? i am in a new relationship now that is 100 times better but i still feel hurt over the last one, why????
2006-07-25 05:50:41 · 30 answers · asked by outsider213 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i still carry hurt from past relationships and i am in a very loving and committed relationship. the key is not necissarily to forget the hurt, but to learn to live with it and make sure that it doesn't influence your new relationship
2006-07-25 05:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 02:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello darling,
a broken heart takes quite a long time to heal, yes, but all depends on your will power to put it behind you and think along your future paths. Do not worry, I am sure the second one will not be the last - THIS IS OUR LIFE, ups and down, hurts and broken promises, roses that blossom for some time and then disintegrate in the heat of a noon sun.
Healing must take its course, but going out with other friends is an asset. Take a good laugh, think about your good wills, invest in your new relationship. stop worrying about everything, live one day at a time and enjoy it to the fullest.
Good Luck and keep moving on. I am sure you have a lot to offer and crying over spilled milk is not worthed.
2006-07-25 05:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is, go to the girl and find out what she thinks about you. 6 years is a long time, and so probably the answer of that girl is predictable. Also as soon as you get that answer is what determines what will happen to the new relationship. If she hates you, all is good, if she likes you still, not good. The reason why you still think about that girl is because you care for her and not for your new girlfriend, which is not good. You need to just think about your new girlfriend now. Just tell your old girlfriend that you hate her or something and then don't think about it. There is a "broken heart clinic" in Japan, but what they do is give you a course
1. Scream and curse your old girl
2. enlarge a picture of the old girl, go to a shooting range and use the picture as target practice
3. cry about the heartbreak
4. get a massage
5. find someone else
In the clinic, you do all of this. It helps, but I wouldn't recommend the crying part.
2006-07-25 06:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by bedtime_ted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A broken heart can take a long time in some cases, you never heal. You do get better as far as able to function and eventually have another relationship. In my situation the memory of my ex-boyfriend and what went wrong stays in my mind constantly, and he stays in my heart. I sill love him. Good luck.
2006-07-25 06:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by krispykreme335 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hearts are crazy things. But a broken heart is the worst.
There may actually be more to this than unrequited love, though.
Was your pride hurt? I think worse than lost love for many is a hurt pride.
Another component that is painful is when we sabotage our-self. We look back and tend to see only the good things and completely forget the garbage and bad times.
If I were you I would find someone to spill my feelings to and start focusing on the past problems, remembering that if you where with her she would be treating you horribly because she was using you. If she really loved you, than you would still be together. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't really care about them?
2006-07-25 05:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your broken heart will last as long as you let it last. As long as you are living in the past, no matter how great the present is, you will let the broken heart nag at you.
Perhaps you should consider being grateful for all your experiences and do your best to keep the brokeness out of your current relationship.
God bless.
2006-07-25 05:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself how the relationship could not work, find new things to do, go out, be good to yourself, and if you're lucky, the hurt will not hurt so much in as little as 18 months. But the memory will last forever.
2006-07-25 05:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Pam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each loss is different.
We experience grief over the loss of their mental, emotional, and spiritual presence, too, along with our own sense of value and self-worth, our pride, our ego, our dreams, our hopes, our security, and our feelings of being loved. We feel rejected, not good enough, not lovable, unwanted, and cast aside. We feel taken for granted and unappreciated for all we have done. We have gone from being everything to being nothing in a moment flat! But what kind of people would we be if we didn't grieve?
2006-07-25 05:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the love you cant have lasts the longest feels the strongest and hurts the most. only time heals a broken heart.
2006-07-25 05:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds normal to me, i am only 14 and your prolly thinking how would she know??!?!...but i was 13 when my boyfriend cheated on me, some ppl thought i was stupid for crying but it hurt so bad, i have a way better boyfriend now and he treats me well but i still have that past that bugs me even thought it shouldn't. I am still waiting for it to clear my mind..and it slowly has, (not all the way tho) i think you just need time to help it heal..maybe even if u two became friends that would help it a little because me and my x became friends and it seemed to help me...sorry if that didn't help :(
2006-07-25 05:55:56 · answer #11 · answered by EMILY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋