2006-07-25 05:48:15 · 42 answers · asked by tinkerbell_sugar_fairy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There's no magic age for when you should start a family and it's different for everyone. Some people have specific goals they want to achieve prior to family commitments while others can't wait to start one. I have friends in their early 20's with children while my boyfriend and i just started ours and we're both 33 (our son is 1 month old). Frankly, some people should never start a family! Hopefully you and your partner will be able to discuss this and have an idea of what's best for you and your relationship. Good luck!
2006-07-25 05:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Age is not a factor here.
Maturity and Emotional and Financal security are.
It's about being able to provide what a chlid needs.
It is not fair to a child to have a parent who still wants to go out partying and running around and following their every whim.
I feel that both parents should be involved in the life of a child. I realize that divorce is a statistical fact of life, and I'm not saying that single parents can't do a wonderful job of raising a child. I'm just saying that a child will learn a very distorted set of values if they spend their younger years watching whichever parent they live with bring home a new partner every other month. A parent has to be able to completely commit themself to their child, and this is not possible if they are still trying to play thie singles scene
Also a lot of people underestimate the cost of raising a child. A child deserves to grow up in one or two places, not constantly being shifted from place to place looking for better work or another relative that will take in their family until they 'get back on their feet'. The family should have a house that they are making reasonable payments on or an appartment that is suitable for a family (remembering that children need more room and their own space when they get older)
2006-07-25 06:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by nobodysangel_nobodysfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the best age to start a family is when it happens. If it meant for you to have a baby you will. At 17 I didn't want any kids I was just looking forward to being 18. I ended up pregnant and here at 19, I'm working 2 jobs going to school and supporting my son with help from his father. I think when you're able to make that choice to lay there knowing you could get pregnant, that's when you're ready. But, if I had to say an age I'd say 21-26 somewhere around there. That way you're more experienced being on your own.
2006-07-25 06:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30-35 for women. By this point you've finished college and you've been working a little while. This is in consideration that you've moved out at the age of 18 from your parent's home, travelled around with some girlfriends (new york, hawaii, england) and have been married since you were 25 and you are in good physical shape and made a nice home for your children to live in.
I started a family before all that, and it was hard, very stressful, and I know my children have hurt emotionally because of that stress. but I try my best everday to give them what I can.
2006-07-25 05:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My plan is to get married aged 19 - 20, have children aged 21 - 22, my boyfriend agrees so it's just a matter of waiting it out. But it has all been thought through, my mother and grandmother both got married at 19, but that's only a year away for me and we can't afford that yet. And if we have children young then we can leave bigger age gaps and also the kids will have hopefully moved out while we are young enough to enjoy the kid freeness!
2006-07-25 11:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best age to start a family is after you are finished w/ school, after you have a securee job, and are prepared to settle down with the love of your life. Whoever said 20.... I don't think you are ready at 20. You can barely find your way out of a paper bag at that age...
2006-07-25 05:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 or 20
2006-07-25 05:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~aShLeY~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Janine, here is a common name!!!
There is no best age to start a family; obviously the more mature you are the less stress you get in facing difficulties and resolving problems.
Life reserves a lot for everyone of us, so if you have an opportunity to start a family, go ahead, it must be one of the best things in life.
I wish you well.
2006-07-25 05:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age you feel comfortable with, don't just go start a family cause all your friends are doing it, have a lot of fun and life first then do the baby thing after you have got bored with all that.
2006-07-25 06:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 25-27 range
2006-07-25 05:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by SunnyD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋