My gf is Agnostic and I am Catholic?

Question

How Hard will it be on the Children to Have Parents from two dfferent religions.

Answer 1

If religion isn't really a big deal for either of you, it wouldn't be that hard.

Answer 2

That depends on the parents. If your gf is devout an dplans to raise kids Catholic, and expects you to fake it too, then there's trouble ahead. Likewise, if you don't want your kids indoctrinated into Catholicism, more trouble.

Honestly, you may both think you're ok with whatever you decide right now, but odds are that as soon as she has a child, her religion will become much more important to her than it is now if she was raised religously. It happens all the time.

Answer 3

Sooner or later everyone returns to their roots. It is especially common for this to happen after having kids. What's going to be hard on the kids is the two of you "discussing" which religion they should participate in, and wondering which parent to support and maybe feeling guilty about taking sides.

Obviously I don't recommend it. It's going to be hard enough blending two lives together. The more united you can be from the get go, the better.

Answer 4

It depends on your purpose for having and raising children. If you wish to pass on your religious perspective in a meaningful way, then you should marry someone with the same beliefs. If that it isn't important to you, well, then what is? Perhaps you will need to rethink calling yourself Catholic. When choosing a spouse you need to seriously consider the purpose and goals that you will have. Can that person help you to complete your purpose and goals? Or, are they just along for the ride?

Answer 5

I don't think the problem is 2 different religions but rather you with, she's without.
How hard will it be? All I know is it's REALLY hard when both parents are on the same page, let alone your situation. But it is impossible? I'd have to say no. But I'm an optimist...good luck!

Answer 6

It could be difficult or it might not but you definitely need to discuss this first. The Catholic Church will require that your children be raised Catholic or they will not perform a wedding. Without the Churches blessing your wife will not be considered married by her faith. If you were never Baptized then your marriage could be annulled if she decides to leave or you do. You must both decide if you can agree and accept these terms.

Answer 7

Let the kids choose. It shouldn't be hard on them if it's their choice, however, if you pose it to them in a "Christ is the only true choice, and all other choices will lead you to damnation", then it is likely to be a bit overly painful and confusing for them.

Ultimately, your actions will be the judge of a person whether they're good or bad. There are many bad people who do horrible things in the name of god, and there are a lot of good people who are open and incredibly helpful to mankind who speak not of any pantheon.

All-in-all, it's likely to only be confusing if one of the parents try to force their beliefs onto the children. Let them choose what they believe is true.

Answer 8

The bible tells us that we shouldn't be unequally yoked. If you and your girl aren't on the same page in regards to beliefs it could cause big problems. She may not want the child to be raised as a Catholic and you would. It's best to find a mate that shares the same beliefs that we do. How important is your beliefs to you. Are you a strong Catholic? If so you may really want to reconsider.

Answer 9

Raise children to have choices and let them believe what they choose. There's no sense forcing religion upon children who are too young to understand the concepts.

Answer 10

Paul warns against a believe marrying a nonbeliever bc of that very problem. Also, the differences in beliefs will result in different views on parenting and the depth to which you can relate to your spouse.

Answer 11

Depends how hard each parent is going to push their beliefs on the children.