I Have This Friend Who...?

Question

She just broke up with the one she calls the love of her life... Personally, I think they are oil and water... She comes in to work sad and on edge because of they way she is treated. She is getting the Yo Yo treatment. (I want you, I don't, oh hey, I want you again... and on and on.) Anyhow, I have given advice til I am blue in the face, but I think something may have sunk in. I told her to quit being so available and throwing herself at this ex... (This ex still tells her she loves her... ) I told her to make herself seem like she just doesn't really care anymore... the whole, "If you come back you do, if not, oh well... moving on" additude. I don't know what else to say to her... was I wrong for telling her to do this? (Telling her to leave her ex alone doesn't work, I tried on one of the 12 times they were separated...) Does anyone have any better advice for her?

Qwiz...

The thing is, I have literally tried to give her advice from a VERY adult angle for 9+ months now. I am running out of ideas for her... (she is obsessed, and it is affecting her at work.) This is why I have gone to this level... She walks through the office, almost daily, sobbing, and she is the FRONT DESK receptionist. If I had anything to do with it, she would not be in this office anymore, as she is obviously mentally unstable and this is a professional business... I have sent her home for the day... I hope this teaches her that she is affecting EVERYONE in the office.

Answer 1

Sometimes tough love is the answer. I had a friend that went through a similiar ordeal, to which I USE to give her advice. Finally after beating the issue until it was not identifiable anymore I finally told her that if she was not going to put my advice into practice please stop seeking it.

Answer 2

Your friend has to live and learn,
seems like she is experiencing the
logical paradoxes of emotions,
sometimes trying to use reverse
logic like your trying to submit is
not the solution, the challenge is
to leave her be yet keep an eye
on how her mental state is unfolding ..
Her feelings for her ex are stronger
than your language, the idiom in your
language creates more of an imposition
toward her thinking pattern of where
her mind state is, she doesn't want to
here someone say forget him, words
can be used as tools and traps, what
you are suggesting to her is no better
than school yard philosophy, one needs
to use language which has a conditioning
effect on her psychology, common sense
for your friend is stoic in the constructs
of her facade of her strong feelings for
her boyfriend, saying what you say to your
friend may lay upon her your prejudices and
impurities of not understanding how she feels
within her self, she needs verbal thinking
within herself so she can see that her place
in life with her boyfriend is not a reality which
is healthy for her ways, once she breaks free
from her obvious artificial love life then her emotions
can break habit and start a new way, true creative
features in our lives manifest where language
ends ... Just be her friend and keep an eye on her
to insure she doesn't fall of the edge of her emotions ..

Answer 3

like Blu Cantrell says all we do is make up and break up when loves hurt it won't wok maybe we need some time alone we need to let it breath tell your friend to get over this ex before she sets herself crazy if they really love her and feel for her they wouldn't have hurt her as much as they do they wouldn't have to keep breaking up with her that means they have doubt that if they really want to be with her tell her friend me like usher and let it burn in time she'll heal and her ex does that because she knows when ever she's ready for her back she'll come running like a dog that needs a bone

Answer 4

i think your friend nature is some sincear for work he more give importance of work.never mind he notice you but some time take