I'm 22 and my fiance is 23, we currently live with my parents. I'm an only child and am a daddy's girl so to speak. My fiance gets along great with my fiance, but I feel guilty because I'm moving out and on with my life. Is this normal?
2006-07-25 05:37:14 · 20 answers · asked by farmergyrl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, I think that it is normal to feel a bit of sadness and nostalgia when a life event like this is occurring. But that doesn't mean that you should feel guilty. Life is like that. As they say: The only constant in life is change. You will be taking with you fond memories, and, I'm sure, that you will always find the opportunity to continue your close contact with your Dad and your family; share the old memories and have a new but continuing relationship with them.
Good luck as you progress through life.
2006-07-25 05:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to analyize why exactly you feel guilty. Do you feel like your parents will be so sad to see you go and you don't want to cause them pain?
All parents feel some sort of loss when a child grows up and leaves the nest. But it is the parents responsibily...not the childs...to deal with those emotions. It is good that you are at a place where you can leave your childhood home and build a new one with your furture husband. There should be no guilt in wanting to do that. But sometimes its the parents themselves that want you to feel guilty... (my father was a pro at this!). Talk to your parents, tell them how you are feeling. See if there is anything they are doing, directly or indirectly, that is fueling your guilt.
Its not like you are moving out of thier lives... just out of their house.
2006-07-25 05:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty about leaving your parents home and starting a life of your own. Your parents will still be there to love and help you in your life. Your old enough now to be out on your own having your own life. You can't live with them forever. Atleast your trying to have your own life at this point. It will be a little hard at first because your so used to living with your mom and dad, but it will pass as time goes along trust me.
2006-07-25 05:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal to feel a bit of guilt when you move on, especially if you feel like it might be seen as deserting them. But that's not the case. It's the way of the world for you go on and have your own life. I'm sure you'll stay very attached to your parents. Just make sure they know how grateful you are for all the help they've given you so far and that they know you still want to be close with them.
2006-07-25 05:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you said your fiance gets along with your fiance? I assume you mean your family? It's normal to feel that way.Big pit in your stomach.Your gonna start a new life, but it doesn't mean you can't include your family.Have them help you paint your new place and move your stuff. Plan dinners with them sometimes.It's a part of life.Besides don't you ever want some "ALONE TIME"?Ya know what I mean?Nothing like running through the house naked, haveing sex every where.goodluck
2006-07-25 05:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by ronchoward 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you care about how your moving out will make your parents feel.
I was 26 when I moved away from home. I deliberately moved only two miles away, to try to make it easier on my mom. She almost had a nervous breakdown, even though I visited and called her often. There was alot of family dynamics that added to why my mom reacted to my moving out like she did, but I always promised myself that I would never put that kind of burden on my children when I became a parent.
Long story short, my mom finally recovered from my move. And we continued our wonderful mother daughter relationship. It may be difficult on your parents, but they'll be fine. Especially as they watch you have the kind of life they desire for you.
2006-07-25 07:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by loveblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 & just got married in June, my step-dad is a truck driver, he's gone 5 days out of the week & my mom is by herself. At first, I felt guilty but I realized that my mom needs that "empty nest" time as much as I needed the "leaving the nest" time, it gives her a chance to live her life for herself & she'll be able to enjoy my children more. Besides, I turned my guilt into appreaciation for the things my mom has done & still does & for the time I do spend with her-it's a good thing that she & my step-dad adore my husband. We invite them over for dinner, they invite us over, we make time to do things as a family still.
2006-07-25 05:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Sorry but I'm willing to bet your parents are jumping for joy when that day comes. So don't feel bad. When you have a 20-something year old living at home with you and hubby years down the road you'll see what I mean.
2006-07-25 05:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel guilty at all. I mean, come on, you got married! That's choosing to spend your life with this man you call your husband. Even though you're young, you made this choice, and you've got to follow through with it. Your parents will learn to let go slowly. Just because you're married, doesn't mean they have to leave your life completely.
2006-07-25 05:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by it's me! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all "your fiance gets along great with your family" and you should have been gone before you gave birth.....
2006-07-25 05:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋