during an argument my BF brings up a girl from his work and said he wanted to **** her??? it threw me off that he came so off the subject? and know his saying he said it out of anger??
2006-07-25 05:33:42 · 36 answers · asked by CALI GIRL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter what situation it is, your boyfriend should of never said that unless he meant it. He must have some sort of feeling for that girl. You may want to reconsider your relationship with him.
2006-07-25 05:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 14⤊ 1⤋
What concerns me most is that he had a specific person in mind. Do you know anything about this person and the relationship (beyond work) the two of them have? It may be something he spouted out in the heat of the moment but only a fool would turn a blind eye and not look more closely at possible trouble up ahead.
You can pretty much guarantee that things are going to be said out of anger in an argument. The thing is, what's being said when you're not arguing. Are you frequently arguing? Are you arguing more than you use to? Are you arguing over stupid things? When you're not arguing, are you both able to communicate well with one another? Is he attentive to your needs? etc. If you're arguing more than you use to or starting to argue for petty reasons, there may be trouble brewing in paradise.
Good luck!
2006-07-25 05:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my boyfriend were to say something like that my trust level would drop. My boyfriend and I have a very good relationship however, so I don't think his simply saying that would make me leave him. If your boyfriend has any history of cheating on previous girlfriends, or on yourself, then I would say you need to ask him. You guys are in a relationship and granted, you may feel uncomfortable asking him this question, but relationships are all about communication. If he answers yes, then you need to break it off, because this means he no longer appreciates you. If he answers no, then let him know that you were asking because you were still shaken by what he said during the argument, then let him know that you didn't appreciate his way of 'expressing his anger'. Most importantly, remember to let him know all these things as lovingly as possible, that way he will be more open and understanding as well. Good luck, God bless.
2006-07-25 05:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Girl 4 God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though your boyfriend was angry, did he let out a secret infatuation for his co-worker? Could there already be something there between them? Yes, you should be suspicious. Sitting next to each other at work doesn’t necessarily lead to temptation, but if two people get along well, spending all day together can certainly nurture the connection. Instead of being jealous of all his female co-workers, just note if he seems to be spending all his time with one co-worker in particular, talking to and about her, for only then will you have a valid reason to be suspicious. Stay calm for now, and get all your information before you go on the rampage. You don't want to ruin a relationship with out the facts now do ya?
2006-07-25 05:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by TheRealHitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would and I wouldn't trust him. You can't take back what you say. If he said it.. he probably means it. I wouldn't not trust him but I would be on the cautious side for awhile. If it was me?? I would try and find a way to get to know her. Your gut instinct will tell you if something was up. And.. if your boyfriend starts acting different when you are around her you will know. If you find that nothing is going on... then guess what? You will have a new friend. Kind of mean I know.. but its been done to me before and the girl and I are great friends and the stupid boy is gone. lol
2006-07-25 05:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by anndee1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He said that for a reason. Even out of anger. It should be a bigger sign that it was out of the blue. It isn't like something you have argued about before and he was trying to use that against you. This is serious and he either has, is , or will cheat on you with her.
2006-07-25 05:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Pimp_Slapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, he has NO right to say that! It's disrespectful and it means he's been thinking about it and waited for the perfect opportunity to tell me. If my BF ever said that to me, I would dump him in a heart beat and he would dump me if I said I wanted to have relations with someone else. Find someone with more respectful with class and manners than himself. You deserve better!
2006-07-25 05:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by coconut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know they (people) say that the truth always reveils itself in two situations: 1)When a person is drunk, 2)When a person is angry. I do think that it should raise a trust issue with your BF, however, it should NOT be with just his co-worker but with every female that is NOT related.
Tae
2006-07-25 05:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Shanta H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure though trust is important in a relationship,your BF taking a girl from work saying such things might mean either he is angry for sure,he is playing jokes with you or he usually does things with the workmate at your absence good luck to you it depends if you want to trust him or not but talk things over with him please.....
2006-07-25 05:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by Grace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you call a boy you can't trust your boyfriend? A lot of people say things they don't mean when they are angry or when they are arguing with others. Has he ever gave you a reason not to trust him?
2006-07-25 05:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by smoke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be telling you he isnt getting enough in a very bad way. Its just a thought. Men have tons of thoughts. Give him what he needs if you love him and that should help.
2006-07-25 05:38:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋