Should a guy ask his girlfriends father for permission to marry her? Or is that something that they only did in the old days? Did any of you ask your future father in laws permission?
2006-07-25 05:20:24 · 26 answers · asked by farmergyrl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes. Totally not old fashioned. I'm an old hen and my future husband STILL went to parents for permission. Not only did he ask my father's permission... but he asked for BOTH their blessings... I think that this was really nice to include my mother because she was the one that brought me up... and I'm really close to her!
It is a really nice way to show respect to the parents. And make sure that there is open lines of communication...
2006-07-25 07:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by ChitChatBrat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Fiance asked my father for my hand in marriage. I do believe this is still proper. THis is a sign of respect for the girls family! My father would have been insulted if my Fiance did not announce the engagement to him!
2006-07-25 05:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by nygnut2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its still a pretty nice tradition. My husband has asked my father, my brother and my nephew for their permission. Once he got their permission, he asked my mom for her blessing before he proposed to me.
There is nothing wrong in keeping with the tradition should you choose to do that. Good luck.
2006-07-25 09:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was common practise years ago, but is a nice thing to do in today's world. I did it..and my g/f knew it was my plan. We joked about what we'd do if he said 'no'. Had that happened, we were going to get married anyway.
If you're thinking of asking her father's permission to marry her..go ahead! No doubt, you've already propsed to your girlfriend and have the answer.
2006-07-25 05:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by orangefrostie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it meant A LOT to my father when my fiance asked for his permission. It depends on the parents and the guy asking - if that is their personality.
2006-07-25 05:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mandie A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally that is the way to go, it just shows respect for the father and the family as a whole.
2006-07-25 06:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should. It's called respect. It might be an antiquated gesture BUT still should be done. Maybe if more people kept up the old ways the world would be a better place.
2006-07-25 05:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary, but it does help to start off your father's relationship with your husband to a good start. Till today people do it. My husband did it three years ago, and my dad had the highest respect for him doing that.
2006-07-25 16:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by english_argie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It shows respect for the Father and it shows that you consider the beliefs and wishes of others.
2006-07-25 07:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by luannecolvin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most couples nowadays announce their engagement to their parents. Women are no longer seen as the property of their fathers, so you don't have to ask. See this:
http://www.comcom121.org/gabby/gab44.htm
http://www.ninetyandnine.com/Archives/20000110/ephemara.htm
What I think is more important is that after the announcement, you meet privately with both mother (she has rights too!) and father of the soon-to-be bride, and let them know your intent to always respect, love, and support their daughter.
2006-07-25 05:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by ghost orchid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋