I am in a transititon period in my life. An adult, but still in search of things, people and ultimately myself. At 24 I have managed to complete my bachelor's degree and am currently working on my master's. I believe that I have a lot to offer this world and a potential mate. I have no baggage in children, baby daddy's, or even credit card debt. My question is...Why is it so hard for me to find someone out there comperable to me? I know in dating, that not everyone is going to be a match, but why does rejection bother me to the extent that it does? Should I consider it a gift that someone did not take to me or mope and dwell and introspect to the point of virtual depression to find an answer? I really am a good person, I've just had minimal luck with men. Any one know where to start? I'vd done the online thing with NO success....any suggestions of other places?
2006-07-25 04:43:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's why young lady, patience is a virtue! (smile)
The more patient you are in any area of your life,most of the times there's a greater reward,
It took a long time for you to finish your studies,am i right?
And that time prepares you for a greater reward(smile)
"BE ANXIOUS OVER NOTHING,BUT BY PRAYER AND SUPPLICATION MAKE YOUR REQUEST KNOWN TO GOD"
He's got the right one for you,remember you have no time for deceivers,con artist ,liars and the like.......
Stay focused and be blessed(smile)
2006-07-25 06:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by tomio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think these things are actually partly coincidental; just look around or log into a singles-site and see all the nice men and women that are single! Thousands of people are single and they're all ages, nationalities, personalities, cultures, social statuses and appearances! And everyone has good and bad sides.
I think the best thing a single person can do is being active in going places and meeting people! Don't listen to those encouraging you to just be passive and "wait for the right one"..Connect with others that would like to do the same as you. Arrange or go to parties; study groups; cooking clubs; movie nights; use your imagination!
To meet others is nice whether you're single or married! Even if you wouldn't meet someone right away, you'll have much more fun and stay healthier emotionally by being social and active than if you isolate and nag yourself with endless analyzing!!
Best Wishes:-)
2006-07-25 12:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have been where you are. The only thing I can tell you is to have patience. You will meet the person you are supposed to be with when the time is right.
Here is a story I will impart:
A friend of mine who is in college works and is a good person has had terrible luck with men. She always seemed to find the cheaters and would try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Last summer she and her sister decide to go on a cruise for vacation where she meets this wonderful guy who happened to live in NYC as well.
One year later they are engaged, he has not cheated and treats her like a princess.
The lesson, don't settle, and it will happen if you have patience.
Another idea would be to do what a friend of mine does. Once per week she goes to this afterwork function where professionals go to hangout. The men there are of age and have a lot going for themselves.
good luck
2006-07-25 11:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey an intelligent woman is a prize catch, and the online thing can work but so can going out and doing some networking and look for those guys that have the same interest as you do. Don't give up hope by being rejected because most of the time it is a blessing in disguise
2006-07-25 11:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow where to start I have not met you but just reading your question I feel an attraction to you. I also am in a transitional stage in my life. I must say I feel similar to you I have no kids no ex or baby mama stories and I have a good job. Yet with all my girl friends that know I'm a good catch I still cant get the one I really want some one like you who is on track with there life and is ready for a meaningfully relationship. So with all that said I don't know the answer but if your in the NY area contact me
2006-07-25 12:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by omenus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i've always been told to take up new hobbies, like hiking or pottery or something. Can meet many interesting and new folks that way. But I totally feel you. I fear rejection too even though I'm of sound mind and know many guys out there would say anything just to make themselves feel better and hurt someone else. So no worries. Don't rush the dating thing the right guy will come along when you least expect it.
2006-07-25 11:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the odds. Think about it. There are thousands of perfect or nearly perfect matches for you in the area near you and millions in the world. But what are the statistics of you running into any one of these matches cold? You may walk by your perfect match every day.
You need to date a lot of guys. Go and be where the men you would want to meet are. School is kinda limited. Try going to ball game with a girlfriend. Go where the guys go that might be worth your while.
Then go ask your mom.
2006-07-25 11:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by campojoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, and yeah you're 24, that's the time i would want to get married and maybe even start a baby. I feel so sad also in these days, i feel like the world is on top of my head, i am so stressed out and depressed, but do not loose hope, when you least excpect something, than is going to click to your door.
I'm so sorry for how you feel!
2006-07-25 12:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lesley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you look up and smile. a rejection is a blessing in disguise it mean you don't waste months or years finding out that this person is not right for you. try to be friends first so you can find out what that person is like so you can see what % of compatibility you guys have and if you have the same interest. it works better then not but try not to be too good of friends or you might get stuck in the friend mode and never get to BF/GF @_~
good lucky
2006-07-25 11:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is not even think about it, in my opinion. Concentrate on your graduate work and getting that degree. Every time I've found someone, it has been more of them finding ME when I wasn't even looking. Enjoy the single life - go out with girlfriends for drinks and dancing. Someone amazing will show up when you least expect it.
2006-07-25 11:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by plcarnrike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on what's most important to you in life and go at it 100% If you want a family and are ready for that go for it. You know though at the exact moment you quit looking that someone special usually finds you. Maybe it just isn't your time to be with someone yet. I know it can get lonely at times but, you must look at what you have and be happy with it.
2006-07-25 11:51:57 · answer #11 · answered by darkchild39702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋