I had my kids when I was 18 and 20, they're 9 and 11 now all my friends are pregnant or have babies and they call me to ask questions. These are the same people who just deserted me because I had to take care of my kids instead of going out to party. I guess what I'm asking is should I even bother helping them out when the weren't there for me when I needed them?
2006-07-25 04:32:46 · 14 answers · asked by skylark455st2 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes help them, They just want some advice from someone who has had experience, there is nothing wrong with that. and for them deserting you when you were having little ones, my husbands friends did the same to him because my husband did not want to hang out with them instead staying home with me and my baby. but now he See's his friends every once and a while and they talk and some times we have a double date because they are now married and have kids, they understand now how important family is now that they have one
2006-07-25 04:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by gorra92 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even bothering with these people in the first place? Apparently they have ways to contact you if you know they treated you like crap when you were down and out. Leave them alone, move on. You do not need friends like that. They are just using you.
2006-07-25 04:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I think your friends do really care about you it's just that they didn't understand what you were going through when you had your kids. Now that they have kids, they are probably wishing they helped you out more with yours. I think you should let them figure it out on their own, since that's what they made you do. But don't quit being friends with them, just don't offer advice if they ask for it.
2006-07-25 04:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your call. Obviously you remained friends with them for all these years. Most people are very immature at the age that you had your kids. It is possible they have seen the error in their ways, or it is just as possible that they are still as selfish as ever and want you to help them because they can't be bothered to help themselves.
2006-07-25 04:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well............ you ARE calling them your friends! I'd help them out. Why not? Put them in their place by giving them all of your expert advise!!! And in the same sentence, let them know you won't desert them in their time of NEEd like they did you 12 years ago!!!!!
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2006-07-25 05:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're older and wiser now because of your kids, let the pass go, and help them bring up thier kids, it's like your the big mama to all your friends, i would just live up to that.
2006-07-25 16:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by mznatural30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try forgiving them....you know what it is like to need help and not get it....so do make others go thru it.
2006-07-25 05:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to snub them, but is that the kind of person you want to be? Kindness is its own reward.
2006-07-25 04:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by mistersato 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u have kids and u know what its like
2006-07-25 04:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋