At a family birthday party this past weekend, my husbands cousin Matt (20years old) annouced that he was gay. I never seen so many adults fall to there knees and pray to God. It was crazy, they acted like it was the end of the world. Then after the shock wore off they all decided this was something cureable. Like if he went to counciling he woulkd be all "better" in a month. What the hell? It started to make my wheels turn..are they right?? Is being gay something "fixable"? Can you change your self with counciling? Will you be "fixed" forever or just temporarly? What do you all think?
2006-07-25 04:29:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just for the record, I don't feel this way. Thats why it caught me off-gaurd when they started acting this way. I love Matt for who he is, I expect people to do the same for me. I was just wondering if its just my hubands famly that thought like this. Thanks!
2006-07-25 05:02:59 · update #1
No it is not fixable. If a man says he is gay and truely means it and has no doubts about his sexuality then he is gay. He can't change it. Studies have been done on the matter and some researchers believe that it is something chemical inside the body and has nothing to do with choice. Think about it, are you straight by choice? No you just feel it and know it by whom you are attracted to.
2006-07-25 04:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Educated 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it not fixable, but the programs that claim to help homosexuals "recover" can cause serious psychological trauma.
The most important fact about "reparative therapy," also sometimes known as "conversion" therapy, is that it is based on an understanding of homosexuality that has been rejected by all the major health and mental health professions. The American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Counseling Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Psychological Association, the National Association of School Psychologists, and the National Association of Social Workers, together representing more than 477,000 health and mental health professionals, have all taken the position that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and thus there is no need for a "cure."
Learn all you need here: http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/publications/justthefacts.html
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2006-07-25 04:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Loss Leader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people are scared enough of homosexuality they will be prepared to do just about anything. That sort of 'councelling' f**ks with peoples' heads, it'll mess him up a lot. Now if one thinks homosexuality is pure evil, perhaps that doesn't bother one very much... but that is a horrible thing to do to someone.
You seem to be on to the truth, speak to Matt and don't rely on second-hand information. Idiots always quote their pastor or neighbor like they would know about these things.
2006-07-25 04:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by ThePeter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay is not fixable, it's not a physical ailment. It's something inside him that says he is attracted to other men. Support him. He'll need all he can get if the entire family is praying for his saving.
2006-07-25 04:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age most people tend to think that it is just a phase and that he'll change his mind. It is up to the person. I thought I was gay when I was 18, but ended up being bi.
2006-07-25 04:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by smileyfaceinspace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who started praying at the announcement are the ones who need curing. Rational thought would be a start for them, however unfamiliar they are with the concept at present.
2006-07-25 04:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by bonzo the tap dancing chimp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is as fixable as a hetero only being attracted to the opposite sex. And it needs to be fixed just as much
2006-07-25 04:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by starcow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be gay who right is it to decide that he should get some counseling. Its his life and if these friends cannot accept who and what he is those people needs to see a counsler.
2006-07-25 04:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by rndyfindley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you can not fix a gay person.you can't send them to a consular and have him/her like a someone of the opposite sex. because if someone is gay then there born that way. you can't change the way they are with counseling sorry.good luck
2006-07-25 04:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its something your born with i honestly think it's unfixabel its just who they are and i don't like judging people on the sexuality becase to me we're all people humanbeings and we need to learn to get along with out descrimination
2006-07-25 05:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by fallin_angel_deadly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋