Okay i am in a bad situation my mother is always flirting with my boyfriend and she wont quit she keeps telling me that she is gonna steal him from me and that when im not around they kiss i confronted my man and he said there is noting going on that he wants to be with me and that she needs to stop lying on him well i dont know who to belive . I made a mistake about even letting my mom move in with us and i dont have the heart to kick her out cause she has no where to go what do i do she is making me stressed and making me go crazy why is she fooking with my man and telling me that were not in love that we are just infactuated with eachother. She is always finding some way to touch him like she will say oh come here you have a lent on your shirt. its pissing me off , what do i do ?
2006-07-25 04:18:51 · 37 answers · asked by Heaven <3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
another thing is that its driving my man away i dont wanna lose him
2006-07-25 04:20:11 · update #1
Kill her :D
2006-07-25 04:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lucas R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a date and tell her she have to find another place to stay! Sounds like she's being the child and you the parent!! If you don't set the limits now, she will continue to cross your borders and give you a hard time. She probably makes you feel like a monster if you go against her;- that's called manipulation. It's her problem and she needs to learn to not run over others like that! The fact that she is your mother does not give her the right to treat you with no respect! Things will probably not change the way they are now. You need distance and if she doesn't respect that, you have to do it anyway. Don't let her push you into feeling guilty to get her way. I would suggest for you to involve someone outside to help you. Like a counselour or friend?
Best Wishes!!
2006-07-25 04:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you KNOW that your mom kisses your BF when you arent around dump him! Get away from your MOM forever! Dont ever introduce BFs to her again. Also if you ever get married to some guy DONT invite her to the wedding. Never let her meet another man of yours.
If your man says she is making stuff up then KICK HER OUT. Tell her why she is leaving, because she is SICK and is not acting like your mom but instead acting like a jealous sister or ex gf of your man's!! She must leave your home ASAP!!!
Also you could set up a hidden camera to run when you leave the home (to see if your mom is lying or telling the truth) and dont tell your mom or BF about the camera.
2006-07-25 05:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom might be jealous. Is she single? I suggest that you find out whats more important to you, your mom or your relationship with your man because that's what I feel it's coming down to. If it's your man you choose, then I suggest that you ask her to leave. You have to nip it in the butt now before she does this with future relationships or before she gets worst. It's tuff but sometimes parents need to be disciplined as well.
2006-07-25 04:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should all have a talk about it, find her a man, get her out more. Give her something to do to take her attention away from your man. People will talk...even if it's someone close to you..people will talk until the day they die. lol record what she says as proof or something...you can move her to another relative's house or get out of the house more with ya man. Seems like your mother is lonely or she need attention and is jealous of you and your man's relationship. She doesn't want to see you happy but you deserve more...
2006-07-25 04:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by siani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man is playing around with your mom, he's not worth keeping. Besides that, if your mother can't respect you and your personal boundaries, she needs to go. To make you uncomfortable and act inappropraitly with your boyfriend crosses a line and if she has nowhere to go, you're not the parent. You need to cut her loose.
2006-07-25 04:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just chilling out. Even if she was messing around with your boyfriend would it be the end of the world? You are acting like a child about it and she sees that and is feeding on it to push your buttons. The worse thing you can do is let her know you don't like it because that will make her do it more.
2006-07-25 04:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by pablo h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you don't want to kick her out.But you may have to kick her out.Becuase the longer she stays there with you.the longer all this is going to go on.you can't have you're mom living with you. if you have a boyfriend.and if she's going to contenue to live there then you have to set some ground rules.like she can't be at home while you have you're boyfrined over.even though she my live there.she can 't be there while he's around. good luck
2006-07-25 04:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to have a seious talk with her about how u feel uncomfortable the way she is acting with your bf . otherwise you need to tell your mom to backoff or get rid of your bf , because he was doing it to! i think you should find her a place to stay for a while , like with a family member or something so you guys have some time away from each other and maybe get a chance to sort things out . good luck!
2006-07-25 04:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she doesn't leave him alone, she will have to find another place to stay. You're not kidding!
That's not right. She's trying to get him to be with her. Maybe mid-life crisis but it's real and you do have to do something about it SOON.
2006-07-25 04:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for mom to move out.
2006-07-25 04:22:53 · answer #11 · answered by Milkman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋