any tricks on teaching a 4 yr old boy he is only to touch things that belong to him,?

Question

when I say touch things that only belong to him I'mtalking about his toys and things that are in his room, he knows he has to share his toy with others, stealing has never been an issue . I mean going into his older sisters room ( those are things that belong to his sister ) we try and teach him
things that are ok for a 4 yr to touch and things that are not , we have done the pop on the hand, spankings, got down to his level . I don' know if it the age of curosity or what it

Answer 1

well thats a young age to tell a boy what to do and what not to do. he still may not understand.
you will just have to have paitence with him. it could take a long time until he fully understands.
but in the meantime you can grab his hand nicely when he reaches for things that arent his and tell him directly to his face that that is not yours.
make eye contact and make your voice sound seroius. dont make it sound mean. dont scare the boy.
good luck

Answer 2

Well, I am sure already are setting a great example and have used punishment that fit the crime but probably for a 4-year-old it's going to have be emphasized quite a bit until it's understood.

"make sure that their children know why stealing is wrong. Parents can point out that stealing means taking something that rightfully belongs to someone else."

"Parents can use examples, such as, "How would you feel if someone wanted your favorite stuffed animal and just decided to take it? Parents can also use examples that occur in everyday life, such as by explaining to children how one pays for things at the store and borrows books from the library, by pointing out things in the home that belong to different people, what gifts are, etc."

"*Teach appropriate ways of getting what one wants. Parents should teach their children how to get what they want without stealing. For example, parents can suggest that children ask for things they want, save up their money to buy the things they want, etc."

Model appropriate behavior. Parents should set a good example for their children by asking before they borrow things, by not taking things that don't belong to them, and by being open and honest.

*Develop a close, open relationship with children. Parents should make every effort to communicate effectively with their children. Children who are close to their parents are much more likely to take on their beliefs and values than children who don't have a close relationship with their parents.

"*Praise and reward honest behavior. . The more parents praise their children's honesty, the more likely they will continue to be honest in the future."

(All the above info came from link sited below)

Hope this helps

Answer 3

Dont let him be the parent .....you are the parent..... so u take control ......if you always give your child what they want (throw temper tantrums ,cry) they will know how far they can go w/ you and plus it doesnt hurt once and awhile to say no trust me I have a four yr old who knows better and when Isee her going for other p[eoples toys,etc: allI say is her name and she wont touch whatever it is she was going for she also knows to share her things to when there is company but also knows to ask if they are not hers also teach him why he shouldnt touch what doesnt belong to him and also teach him the difference between the things he can get hurt from if he does touch them

Answer 4

I think i need more of an explanation here. I would hate to think that I could only touch things that belong to me. When I go to a store and see something soft or with texture the first thing I do is touch it.

Answer 5

Trying using the word NO and touching his hands and gently pushing them away when he is touching stuff that doesnt belong to him. Eventually he will catch on.

Answer 6

tell him over and over and over...and each time let your voice get a little more intense. finally a few well placed pops on the back of the hand should do the trick.

Answer 7

consider if that's really what you want to teach.

would you rather that he shared what was his with you and his friends, or do you want to say this is mine don't touch this. Things that you don't want him to touch or use, put out of his way

Answer 8

if you are having this problem at home I think removing all valuable stuffs and things is the best