how can I deal with my 3 years old son saying bad words ?

Answer 1

two words....S O A P

My gosh...is he repeating something he has heard?

Answer 2

First of all don't over re-act. If he sees he's getting a reaction out of you he will be more likely to continue the behavior. At three he should be able to understand you telling him that there are some words that he is not allowed to say. If he keeps on using the words after you have explained to him that he can't use them, then explain to him that if he continues to use bad words he will have to go to time out. Then the next time he uses a bad word you take him to time out. You will have to go through the whole process every time a new bad word comes up though. This worked with all three of my children, and is working with my grandchildren as well. The worst thing you can do though is let him see or hear any kind of reaction out of you when he uses the bad word. You have to remain calm and in control.

Answer 3

Most people believe that if you child says or do something bad its because "they see it at home" and there are cases in which this is true, however, kids this age are very intelligent and hear things you don't. If your son goes to daycare he might have heard it from another child or maybe he heard it on TV. Regardless how he learned it you must let him know that "using those words is wrong/bad" and that only people who don't have "good manners" use them. Ask him where he heard it, obviously if he heard it from you or anyone at home you should put a stop to it. Admit that you (or whoever is using such language) are wrong and let him/her know you will try to watch your mouth (and really do it). This worked for me, I have a boy and his father uses those words all the time, I explained to him that his daddy was wrong and that he shouldn't do as he does. To be honest with you it takes a lot of patience and sometimes a pop in his mouth, that's right, after talking to him and explaining that it was wrong for him to use those words and giving him many warnings, I did occasionally popped his mouth when he said bad words. Do not abuse your child but let him know you are serious about not using "bad words". And don’t worry all kids do it, believe me even if you don’t use such language at home they will eventually learn it and use it, it is up to you to teach him not to.

Answer 4

Consistency. Do not under any circumstances reward the child in any way for it. If you mention a punishment you must carry it out. If it is something you are not going to do, don't use it as a threat. Make sure to reward when correct actions are performed.

Consistency is the key. You must be the same in the home as outside the home on the subject. Remember the child is 3, you are the adult.

Find out where he is learning this behaviour and deal with it, somehow.

But most of all. Every single time something comes out that you don't like, say something. Don't let any time slip. It's confusing for a child and is not drawing clear lines.

Answer 5

Lots of small kids pick up bad habits from adults. When you are around him don't say those words and ask other adults that go around him to please not say those type of words in front of him because he likes to repeat them. Explain to him that they are bad and he shouldn't be saying them. Even though he is only three he can still understand you. If none of that works do it the old fashioned way and wash his mouth out with soap. If he says those words take away a toy each time and tell him that he won't get it back until he stops using those dirty words.

Answer 6

one thing how did he learn the words.. try not to have anyone say bad words around him..but when he does tell him that is not a way for a boy to talk...i do not believe in washing their mouths out with soap or anything that drastic..maybe slap his hand and tell him not to say those words.. i know my 2 year old grandson is learning words and i heard him say but and i thought it was cute but i think it is wrong to laugh at a word more serious than that.. they are so cute and can pick up things so easily..i have heard young children say real bad words and i did not think that was funny at all... but they had to have learned them somewhere.. a lot of times i just say jonathan do not say that or do not do that.. and if he persists then i slap his hand.. i know his older sisters learned some words in school and they get into big trouble for talking like that... it is a shame that some parents do not care what kind of words there child uses...but you just have to do the best you can.. and see what your child will listen to ...and then try to break him of bad language and bad habits.. like the terrible twos when they are getting into everything.. seems like you are on them all the time...my grandson keeps me going some days, i am glad when he takes his nap...hope i helped you some... good luck...

Answer 7

My two and a half year old nephew started saying really bad words, as well. It's a young child's way of looking for attention. Honestly, the best thing to do is ignore your child when he says something obscene. Whenever you give them too much attention, they realise it's something bad and they say it even more. Don't grimace, don't shout, don't even look at him....just keep your face expressionless. Your son will soon realise that bad words don't make any sense.

Answer 8

It is normal for him to do this because he's probably hearing them either at home, or on tv, or out in public somewhere. A couple ways to handle it: tell him that he isn't allowed to say things like that because they are not nice words; or, try to ignore him. Don't get into the washing out the mouth w/soap business. And of course, no spanking him. Say something like, "Those words are very nasty and we don't use them in our home." If he continues, try a short time out. I think time-outs go by how old the child is; in your case, put him in his room for 3 minutes. Then bring him out and tell him, "Ok; now if you do it again, you'll have another time out." Then stick to that until he gets the idea you're serious...good luck!

Answer 9

My mom use to wash my mouth out with soap. A little Joy dish washing detergent worked well. Also I have heard of people using hot sauce, just put a little on your finger and stick it in their mouth. I guarantee after a few times they will not curse around you at least. Also the best way I have figured out not to have my children curse is to not curse around them. So maybe if you eliminated the sources that might help too.

Answer 10

Well, did he hear the bad words from you or anyone living with him? If so, then it's your own fault and it's a bad habit to break because he won't understand why you can say it but not him

Answer 11

what ever form of discipline you use, it must be his problem. never do anything that your son could interpret as you punishing yourself for his behavior. at that age all kids are self-centered. he won't care about you punishing yourself. if he receives all the discomfort of the punishment his behavior will stop. whatever punishment you decide to use must be strongly linked to the behavior you are trying to stop.
if you decide to wash his mouth out with soap, use ivory soap, it is the purest on the market, don't use anything with moisturizers or fragrances.