I just started dating someone at the beg. of June (long distance relationship) and he knew that I was trying to go back to school in another state. we would be closer just not in the same state. But he has insisted on asking me to move where he is, I gave in and said yes now I have been looking for a job. I told him I wouldnt move unless I have a job. But he's still pressuring me. Now he has given me a ring! I accepted but I have had doubts I'm scared about moving and just moving so fast in general. now he has admitted the frist couple weeks we were together he had cheated. What do I do??? do I not move and see if he can prove himself? go to school like I had planned and forgive him and date long distance? or run like hell?
2006-07-25 04:06:02 · 12 answers · asked by Capricorn82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I say never give up furthering your education this way
you avoid later having any regrets if things don't work out.
Never stop following your dreams forsaking them for the dreams of another.
Yes I say it looks like your moving to fast and sometimes when you move to fast you miss out on getting to truly know the person.
If your going to spend the rest of your life together by getting married since there is a ring, I don't see why you both can't wait for you to go to school if you truly want to be together what is the
rush.
Now sometimes rushing can be a sign of something just ain't right and once your married don't be surprise if that's the time you find that out.
Now, he did admit that he cheated so at least his lack of respect for your relationship has shown he can become honest by admitting he cheated so that gets that out of the way unless your going to hold it against him. If so, I see more than enough reason for you to go to school and get your life in order and if he's still around and you feel you want to have a future with him, I say
good luck.
2006-07-25 04:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!
I have been in a relationship where I was cheated on. No matter what, it is never the same. It will always come up, even in other arguments. The moving in and ring aspect....TOO FAST! I do believe things might be able to happen this quickly and work, but honestly, this is a way of control. Girls get excited about a ring and things of that nature, and its to keep you coming back for more. If you even have to ask this question, theres obvious doubt, and when there's doubt, dont make hasty decisions. If you can work out long distance, even for a little while, you will be able to get rid of that doubt and know for sure.
2006-07-25 11:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by godisamzg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he cheated so you are changing your whole life to be with someone who can't guarantee a lasting relationship. (not that he can't change) but I honestly think he's trying to get you closer and giving you a ring out of pure guilt?!?! So you just decide what's more convenient for you right now? School, job, address, that feels best for YOU and you alone.
Moving in is a big step and comes with a lot of responsibility.. and I don't think a 7 - 8 week relationship is ready to take that step. So just don't let him pressure you into making any decisions. Good luck, hope it works out for the best!
2006-07-25 11:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by C a R L i T a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out! He cheated and you are still thinking of expecting he will work out! Drop him, give back the ring, and find some else. Consider this a failure, and look for your success elsewhere. Keep trying! You are asking the question because you know the answer, you just want someone to tell you the truth!
2006-07-25 11:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by BuyTheSeaProperty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like hell I tried the long distance thing where the guy relocated and it lasted 4 months, he went back to his home state this past Saturday and I feel so much relief.
2006-07-25 11:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy - does this sound like deja vu to me. I had a similiar event happen to me in the past. I was involved in a long distance relationship and my ex- ( notice I said Ex) kept pressuring me to either move in with him or have him move to my state and live with me. He told me he fell in love with me and wanted to marry me etc. But - the truth was he was in trouble. He needed someone to help pay his bills etc. I fell for the whole darn thing. I let him move in with me, EVERYTHING changed. All of the sudden he wouldn't talk about marriage, or that he loved me. He said we needed time blah blah blah blah blah. He cheated on me, treated me like dirt, was outright mean to me. So - you have only known him for almost two months. Do you REALLY think you know this person. Think again. You need more time to get to know each other,. Please don't rush into anything you will regret.
2006-07-25 11:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Dee2241 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like hell. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And he is just creepy. Don't let anyone push you to go faster than you are comfortable.
2006-07-25 11:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, BREAK UP WITH HIM!
can`t you see he`s trying to pursuade you? and if he doesn`t get his way, it could get physical.
even if you spent all of the world with him for the past month, you wouldn`t know what he is really like, and something bad could happen.
and he admitted he cheated on you. if he cheated once, he will cheat again because he isn`t satisfied.
2006-07-25 11:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the door hasn't already hit you in the booty on the way out your moving to slow to get out of that relationship. z000000000000m be gone
2006-07-25 11:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn, i think u SHUD REALLY stay where u r and wait and maby he'll cmoe to u :D tell him u cant cuz yo mother sick or u dont got the cash... i think if he really loves u
2006-07-25 11:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Bartek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋