if a women dosnt reach orgasm with her boyfriend is it actually his fault?

Question

i have heard women moaning about how bad there b/f,s were between the sheets or wherever but is he to blame?ladies men arnt phycic you have to tell them what there doing wrong! each women is different+like different things so how we expected to know? if u were to say to them eg"no try it this way" or rub it here + not so hard this time" or "tickle me there" he wouldnt be offended as some of u think ! most would appreciate the advice!!! so stop saying its our fault cos its actually URS! lol get one in 4 the boys there eh lads!

Answer 1

This is Political Correctness, gone way over the top!!
Lets just face the real 'facts of life' here for a while!
(Including yourself BTW).
Woman is here on earth to produce the next generation, and to give pleasure to man! It is not required that she have any type of 'orgasm' to fulfil this obligation!
This is not a quote from any 'Holy Book' just common sense! I suppose there is no real harm in allowing women to 'twitter' on about being better drivers etc, but lets just get this right, the man gets the orgasm the woman can lay there and 'Think of England' or think of whatever she wants, her task in life is to satisfy man!!
I hope this helps??
PS It may not be much help as a chat up line, so try not to use it!!.

Answer 2

Not all the time. A lot of woman who don't orgasm, have psycological issues that block there pleasure senses. Some woman actually feel dirty or guilty about having an orgasm. Others have had sexual or physical abuse tramas in their past as well.

Then there is the time that the man is just plane terrible in bed. Men have a tendancy to be selfish and only think of their getting off or just bad technique. I always make sure my gf/date gets off first and at least once. Foreplay is a great key to helping a woman reach climax.

Answer 3

The fault is not her boyfriend's or her own. Orgasm is the work of nature and if not reached it is not the fault of any body. The only thing to do in situation like that is to understand each other and the boy should stay with her girlfriend till she is satisfied by licking, sucking or anything else.

Answer 4

You might be fairly insensitive, so I recommend using supplementary products... Personally, I recommend KY Jelly, but that's mainly a matter of preference. Also, masturbating for a little bit before actually having sex can help a great deal to get you that much closer to having an orgasm.

Answer 5

No, i don't think so. I think it has to do with her 70% and him 30%. See, i have been in the situation where the guy kept going and going trying to make me.But, when a woman can't relax enough or feel very comfortable with the guy, it might not be feasable. It might just be her having a problem, and she can't relax enough to ***, while he's doing his thing. I know a grown woman who to this day, has never reached an orgasm. I've done it plenty! Women need to learn to relax and feel comfortable, sexy for themselves and the guy has to be patient, and caring. You guys will hit the spot sooner or later.

Answer 6

It's obviouis you haven't been with a guy that gets Pouty when you point out what he's doing isn't doing it for US or they get remote and start spouting off *Well no else has ever complained* sometimes it's easier to fake it and get it over with then to deal with some guys fragile ego.

if we can take the time to learn what turns on our men, then you can do the same.

Answer 7

I try to ask if they like what's going on, if not i change the gameplan, so to speak. I've had few actualy complaints, the ones I have gotten were from bitter ex-es who just wanted to cut me down and be mean. My advice? Ask questions, if they don't help you out, they shouldn't complain.
You don't go to a restaurant and get mad at the cook because you're starving, but you won't tell him what you're hungry for, do you?

Answer 8

if a woman cant bring herself to orgasm alone, she most likely wont during sex with a partner.

its not the guys fault unless she has persistently explained where and how and he just doesn't get it..

if he has done everything she asks and she still doesnt, then its her, not her fault, she just isnt in tune enough with her own body,

we cant come on demand like men as much as we wish we could....
christ , sometimes my brains all for it but no cookies for me (rare though ;O)

Answer 9

It all basically boils down to having good communication and the woman feeling so much at ease that she can comfortably state what she likes/dislikes, the man can always set the example by telling her what he likes and dislikes....leading the way, but sensitive communication is needed, not barking orders for example! But gentle murmurings, nuzzling in her ear, asking her what she'd like............mmmmmmmmmm

Answer 10

em yes darling it is Ur fault u should know by her moans and groans if Ur pleasing her she doesn't have to spell it out for u
yours sincerely from a well orgasm ed woman