Do any of you have this fear?

Question

I have a 14 month old who I still check in on periodically thru out the night and there are mornings where if I wake before him I am gripped with fear when I walk towards his crib thinking whatif I found him dead. Do any of you have this fear? Is it normal or paranoid? When are you out of the woods for SIDS? I read an article in PARENTING that a 15 month old died from SIDS isnt that a bit old?

Answer 1

I don't think you're paranoid at all. You're just a good mommy. My son will be 4 soon and I still check on him every night before I go to bed. I put my hand on his chest to make sure he is breathing. Silly? Maybe, but it still makes me feel better. And I'm the same way in the morning. If my little man doesn't wake me up, I get a little anxious until I get to his room to check on him. Don't worry mom, you're just like the rest of us :0)

Answer 2

I have always had that fear! Before our first daughter was born, we were given a monitor that alarms if your child stops moving for 10 seconds. Of course, they cannot guarantee anything - but it definitely gives me some piece of mind. With our oldest daughter, it only alarmed one night the entire time she slept in the crib. And I was completely exhausted at the time, but I do think she stopped breathing (she was a preemie and had done this a couple times at the hospital before she came home as well).

Anyway, I use it with our second daughter too. It has gone off a few times in the last 6 months, but not that many times. Now with her, I think it is because she moves SOOOOO much and she will get herself balled up in the corner of the crib, so the monitor can't sense her moving.

Anyway, I may be a little paranoid too. But at least this gives me some piece of mind. I've added a link to the monitor if you care to check it out. I'm sure there are many places online and at stores that carry it - this is just one link. It also works as a regular monitor for using around the house when the child is not in bed or gets older.

Answer 3

I think you are a mom. period. sids is basically not being able to breathe...so just make sure there is only a light blanket in the crib and that is all. At 14 months they should be fine. I think you can calm down a little. Just wait...the worrying doesn't go away but you can't let it control your every minute of every day. You are going to worry just wait till they go to preschool...or anything else that doesn't involve you...it's scary.

Anything can happen at any time just do the best job you can and try to relax and enjoy your baby!!! :) This age is great cuz they aren't talking back to you yet. :)

take care!!!

Answer 4

There is still a risk of SIDS all they up until they are 3. My friend lost a child to SIDS, and found out that there is still a risk up until the child is 3 years old. I still check on both of my girls, one is 6 and the other just turned 1. I get up before both of them, and I get up several times a night to check on them. Everything is normal, if we didn't check on our kids, we wouldn't be good parents.

Answer 5

I have a 17 month old. I used to feel that way between newborn to 10 months. I was very attentive of her sleeping positions during every nap and through the night. I made sure she was thoroughly burped. After each burping we would hold her for at least an hour and a half before lying her down to make sure her milk digested enough and she would not spit up while sleeping. Its nor paranoia. SIDS is real........unfortunately! You are just a loving worried mom. Keep checking on her at least until you are secure inside and your son is at least 16 months (in my opinion).

Take Care!

Answer 6

I have read that usually you don't have to worry about SIDS anymore is when they are around 2 years old. But do you think that when they are 2 you are gonna quit worrying about your child. I have a 4 year old and a 2 1/2 year old and I worry about them as much or more than I did the day I brought them home from the hospital. It is always gonna be something. I think that is a sign of a normal mother. Now I know that excessive worrying isn't good and you will drive yourself crazy, but worrying about your children is normal.

But if you keep worrying about them you can't enjoy them

Answer 7

I think your fear is very normal.

I think the dangers related to SIDS subside around the 2 year mark, but average age is about 4 months and 95% of cases occur before 6 months old.

Try not to worry too much... it won't help the outcome, right? For every thousand births, 998 don't develop SIDS. Just try to enjoy every moment with your baby as they grow up too fast anyway!

Answer 8

It's normal to fear your childs death but alittle peranoid to wake up every morning thinking you child is dead. Have a more positive outlook for your kid. keep all the big soft fluffy stuff out of the crib and you'll reduce the chance of SIDS for your baby. You should look it up on the internet and find some advice you can follow to keep your baby safe.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

This is natural after having a child. But put your fears to rest.
The child is past that age of Sids, it is odd if it did happen.
Think positive when u feel this fear, a bible verse on the brain
will take all fear away fast.
The devil is messin wid the mind sometimes. Dont fear,
your child is in Gods hands and yours....Take Care.

Answer 10

I think you're just fine. My daughter is 4 and I check on her at night if I happen to get up and use the bathroom or something. I sometimes think what if I found her dead and wonder if that's normal, but I guess a lot of people do it. I also check to see if she if she's got enough covers if it gets too cold. And sometimes go as far as to rearrange her position if she looks uncomfortable. I think that's just a part of parenting.