Okay this is the real question I wanted to ask.?

Question

If you answered my last one then you will know what I'm talking about. I don’t consider myself annoyingly polite but I do say please and thank you, I do over tip, I say good morning or smile to people on the subway, especially if my eyes meet theirs, I may give up my seat for an elderly person or a pregnant woman on the subway, I hold the door for the person coming out behind me and I always ask the other people in the elevator what floor before I press my own floor button. And now here on answers I usually thank the "best answer person" and sometimes I will send a message, sometimes even to a person whose answer I didn’t chose but appreciated. The message is always the same "thanks for taking the time to answer my question I appreciate it".
Now is this too polite? Is this annoying?
Be brutal I can take it!
And BTW thanks in advance!!

Answer 1

That sounds like the same kind of things that I do, and I have never thought that I might be too polite. I have wondered if maybe I am too nice at times, but have come to the conclusion that there is no such thing as too polite or too nice. There is so little of it in the world today, so if a few people go the extra mile, maybe it will help to balance it all out. If someone else is having a problem with your politeness maybe it is simply because he/she sees their own shortcomings and feels a little embarrassed by them.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, you are letting New York and New Yorkers get to you. Of course, because you are in a business where the leaders have the attention span of a gnat, and even less patience, combined with a painful cynicism and distrust of almost everyone, your concern is natural.

How often do you do something normal and get back a suspicious or even offensive response? Oh, probably most of every day ....

You might want to take a little time reading some Dorothy Parker and Bennet Cerf - their stuff is collected into books available at the library. They were two of New York's leading lights and the never hesitated to shine it on the shallow phonies. There was more intellect in Parker's apostrophes than in the layouts of most of the editors of Elle.

You're doing fine, don't stop. Just because some people drink lemon juice and say it's all the rage doesn't mean you need to turn sour, too.

Answer 3

Being brutally honest you seem grossly self-centered. When getting a best answer I appreciate a little personal response. For example, thanks for taking the time and you've made and excellent point on the (insert relevant information). It took you along time and mostly talking about how polite you are to get to the point of your question. It's not annoying but a token response communicates to the answerer that they are one of many and nothing makes their effort or answer special. It could also mean the asker is self absorbed and unable to see beyond their own sense of self. I think your response is superficial and although it may fall within guidelines set by Mrs. Manners it lacks depth. Is it to difficult for you to add a small reason why you liked that answer ? I think most people like a personal touch over a polite touch by proxy at least I do. I don't think the two are incompatible. The only thing annoying about rote politeness is it's rude and demeaning to the person it's inflicted on. It takes the personal touch out of communication and allows people to abdicate their responsibility by relying on superficial rules of shallow engagement. We should all be so lucky you thank us for answering your questions. You're welcome in advance.

Answer 4

manners and common courtesy come free some times the receiver as you say when you hold a door open for them will just barge on by. with no word of thank you or a smile, but you not holding the door open for to be thanked or smiled at. Its a common courtesy its manners its being brought up to respect people the same people that wont thank you are the same people who will never hold a door open for you its as simple as that,
So if we all had manners and showed common courtesy to be thanked we would soon change our ways, ye s you can open the door give up the seat, But do it because that's the kind of person you are you have manners
not in the hope of being tanked you will disappointed a lot of the time , no need to tank me and saying good bye is also nice to do when logging off

Answer 5

Wouldn't it be nice, if woman said please when they asked you a favor?

Wouldn't it be a surprise, if they said thank you when you held the door open for them?

Wouldn't it be wonderful, if a woman had a sense of appreciation, a giving heart, and acknowledged your presence with a smile when they made eye contact with you?

Wouldn't it be a remarkable contrast in a time where women think it's attractive to belch, spit out profanities and mimic caveman's behavior?

Close your eyes, and just imagine:

A woman who had manners, had dignity, had class, had some sense of self-respect and self-worth...

A woman who was not spoiled or self-centered...

A woman who could appreciate the little things in life, was giving and caring, and mother-like...

In our age, is it even possible that such a beauty could exist?
A woman who became what she was always meant to be...



...a lady?



Now do you understand why women like you are a total abomination to society?

tsk, tsk. How could you.

Whatever you do, at least when it comes to being polite, on behalf of all the real men on this planet, don't stop, s'il vous plaît.

Answer 6

Sherry,
No this behavior is not annoying, because if it is, then you and I are the two most annoying persons on Yahoo! at this moment.
I believe that you are questioning your behavior due to the lack of reciprocity you must be recieving from the general population.
Please allow me too, and forgive me, for getting on my soap-box but we, as a society, have lost touch with manners, chivalry and politeness. Case in point is our women, who are now so used to being raised without their own fathers (father figures) opening doors for them that this polite act is lost to them. I think you should feel good about yourself and not let the general public let you down.
Personally, it would really brighten the start of my day if I made eye-contact with you and you uttered "Good morning" at the same time or just before I do.
Sat

Answer 7

No, this is not too polite and it is not annoying at all. In fact, I am doing exactly what you describe in your details. I always go out of my way to try to contact the answerers to thank them for the answers. One time at work, I asked someone a question and I said please. This woman was a little bit surprised that people nowadays would actually say please; so, she didn't know how to answer my question for a moment. So, in a sense, I know what you are talking about. Don't let these good manners bother you; I wish there are more people like you in the world. Thanks for granting us a chance to answer your question. It is always an honor for us to answer your questions.

Answer 8

No. absolutely its not too polite or annoying. It is a good sense of manners and courtesy towards others. That is a very pleasing and cheerful way of dealing with people. I hope anyone would be glad to see such a person around. You are on a very right and bright path. thats great. carry on.

I wonder who has put this doubt in your mind. If anyone said so earlier, I guess they couldn't be as good as you, so they envy you and try to find fault with your mannerism. anyway, dont listen to them.

People are jealous because they cant be like you. thats it.
Keep spreading sunshine all the way. Good Luck. Bye

Answer 9

Your behavior is Normal as a Human being and It is not too much to give people good feeling.
Be Polite, Helping the Others, Appreciation and many other things are the basics of act as a HUMAN.

So be Proud,
Because Most of the People are Look Like a Human and Act like an Animal. and You are not one of them :)

Answer 10

How & why do I believe U that everything U do is true ? It's not at all annoying though nor pleasing. In a way, may B it's a sort of your inferiority, showing superiority to others. It could B called over respecting without knowing worth of it. However, it's pleasing for me to know that such an person like U exists in our society, hence answering. Offering respect in a way. Pl. accept & respond friendly, friend ? Thanks.