My bf cheated on me 1yr back. It was true love for me. I still haven't forgotten or forgiven him. During this 1yr , 7 guys claimed their love for me. I denied their proposals as i still feel for that pervert and i strongly believe that love happens only once.
Most importantly, i don't have faith on guys. I know that not all guys are bad. Still i can't trust anyone. Shall i fall in love again or its better to stay single and get immense attention from the opposite sex like i am getting now?
2006-07-25 03:28:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, love DOESN'T only happen once, it happenz when you let it...(or maybe not, but that sounded cool, right?)
No, really, if one stupid idiot didn't appreciate you, get with someone who is good to you...and don't give up on love!!
It DOESN'T only happen once.
There are a lot of GREAT guyz out there!!
I also noticed that you still feel for the ****** who cheated on you. Let me share this with you, dear...
Whenever you take back a cheating man, you're sending the message that it'z okay for him to treat you this way. You should definitely value yourself more than that!! Guuuuurl, how could the 'love of your life' cheat on you? Showz how much HE carez! And if he triez to run that crap about 'I made a mistake' don't get sucked into that either. You make a mistake on a Math test. It'z NOT a mistake when you intentionally lay on top of someone and start pumping away!!! (That goez for guyz and girlz!)
Anywayz, I know I'ma get a lot of flack from some cheaterz who may CLAIM I'm being judgemental or somethin stupid, but if that bit of info helpz a little... then I did my job!
(Plus, let me know how everything turns out.)
Peace & Love, sista-girl!!
2006-07-25 03:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by BlakLuv_06!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, I have been in the same situation about three years ago, I desided that I was not going to go out looking for a new boyfriend I was just going to hang out with the girls and have fun, I didn't trust any man and said that I never would. I have always been the type of person that would make you earn trust before I gave it then when I met my husband he helped to to understand that you should trust everyone until they give you a reason not to. you are thinking in your mind about the past and if you do start a relationship with someone else you are going to cause bad things to happen by thinking that they are. I hope that you will find true love again and remember when you do he is not the one that cheated on you don't push him away for the wrong reasons.
2006-07-25 10:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by randyssgirl25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably better to stay single--for the time being. It sounds like you need to work on yourself and some of your issues of trust. Once you become happy and whole, healed from that relationship and content to be alone, then you'll be better equipped to make someone else happy, as well as to accept love from that person. If any guy who declares his love for you at the drop of a hat is worth his salt, he'll wait to have the best you he can have.
Let go of the past. Even if your ex isn't sorry, it will only eat you up to hold a grudge against him. No one said you had to forgive any unrepented action, but letting go of your anger over it will do you a world of good.
As to whether you only have one true love in life or many, that's been an open debate between professional and lay philosophers for ages. Only you can determine which holds true for your life--whether your past love was your one true love from which to learn, whether you have yet to meet your one true love, or even if you'll have more than one true romantic love in this life. Keep your chin up, it rains and shines on everyone! :)
2006-07-25 10:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by ohevshalomel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very personal decision. I won't go into details, but I was hurt very badly in the first year of high school and it took until my second year of college before I was even able to date someone. I kept turning this guy that was following me around down, till eventually I gave in and went roller skating with him. We started "hanging out" and studying together. That turned into talking for hours on end, which eventually turned into serious dating. That very persistent, almost annoyingly present suitor is now my husband - and I have to say it was worth it. He's a great guy and has been with me through some good times and rough times since then. But that was me - you are the only who knows if you're ready to go into a serious relationship again. Just take it slow, don't go in expecting to "fall in love" and just see what happens, ok? Good luck!
2006-07-25 10:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Fed_UP_with_work. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try & love again-Another relationship could be competely different from the last one-not all guys are arseholes-just about 89%-the other 11% are worth taking a chance on but only when you are ready & when are all totally over this guy-take your time and hopefully you'll find a good one this time. Good luck
2006-07-25 10:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we all make mistakes and some are lucky to realise them and correct the same. I pesonally feel that you could fall in love as many times you would want, so long the person you are in love is resiprocating the feelings. otherwise it is just going to hurt. If you personally feel that you are in love again, appreciate the fact and act as if its the first love. Infact the mature love is more powerful and everlasting.
2006-07-25 10:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Coolguy_punjabi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are a$$holes but they arent all like that thank god some are genuinely good guys.
building trust up again will take time having that trust broken again will take no time at all..
its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
forget him there will always be a piece of you that loves him no matter what he did.
but he did what he did so its time to move on..
life is full of ups and downs and its better to take the ride as it comes then never to have bought a ticket.
2006-07-25 10:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a choice. Your heart is made to love.
You can deny it all you want and try to stifle it but that will only cause you emotional problems.
You will love again.
What you do with that love is what you have some say about. You can declare it, cultivate it, or let it die. But yes, it's okay to love again.
2006-07-25 10:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by That Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single for now and when its time to get back into a relationship you will know, the right guy will come to you, don't look for him. Just be patient.
2006-07-25 10:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by blue_girl_05us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fall in love. Just because one guy burned you, doesn't mean they all will. Love is putting yourself out there, being vulnerable and open. Getting hurt happens, but when it's right, nothing is better.
2006-07-25 10:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by extra_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋