I was 31yrs & she is 27yrs, It was my 1st time to be in-love with my fiancee(she) but she told me once that, i am very "silent romantic" person, and she doesn't allow me the way i want to touch her.
Now i ended my relation with her, because she might bring hard/bad time to me or i/we could not be happy in future(if married) in term of my love/sex life and my professional/career life.
any help or suggestion on the above decission i made to end the relationship, because i was alone & really confused what to do??
2006-07-25 02:48:36 · 7 answers · asked by Vips_5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly I think you did the right thing. Sex is a VERY IMPORTANT part of a relationship and marriage. If you are having problems in this area before you are married that is not a good sign. However, who knows maybe this girl was abused at some point or had some type of traumatic experience with sex. There must be some explanation for her reaction. If you think she is worth it and you love her that much then I suggest trying to find out the reasons for her actions. If she does not want to tell you why she acts that way then I suggest just moving on. You need a wife who is comfortable with you in the bedroom and who you are comfortable with in the bedroom.
2006-07-25 02:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by strawberries 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try and talk to her more to find out why she does not want to get physically intimate with you. Sometimes women that have been victims of sexual abuse or a sexual assault are reluctant to and find it hard to be intimate with a man. If this is the case then a man just has to be patient with them in order to allow them time to open up.
However, if you find this isn't the case then it may be that she doesn't believe in getting physical before marriage. Has she done anything with you yet? I'm wondering to what degree you mean when you say she won't allow you to touch her.
You should try and get to the bottom of it though, because, yes, physical compatibility is important in a relationship.
2006-07-25 09:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by it's me! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not old enough to get married and don't have much romantic experience, but different people have different boundaries. That's why, for example, in school, not EVERYONE is hugging each other all the time.
Everyone deserves to have thier boundaries respected, period, but if it mattered to you that much it would probably be best if you found another person. You're probably right that you and your former fiancee would have had difficulties in the future.
2006-07-25 09:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tigress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U DID THE WRONG THING BY ENDING UR RELATIONSHIP
U SHOULD HAVE WAITED FOR A LITTLE BIT
U NEED TO LEARN HOW 2 WAIT!!!
2006-07-25 09:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by ppunkxsskater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there was something in her past that makes her uncomfortable...I hope you talked to her about why she felt that way before breaking it off.
2006-07-25 09:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not being rude but i think she's a lesbian
2006-07-25 09:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by uro levu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her... you will know what to do!!
2006-07-25 09:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋