I'm a 23 year old wanting to know how I can get an older women to be interested in me. I think she already finds me attractive but is reluctant to show her interest because of our age difference. I think she is in her late 30s or early 40s. I find her very attractive and want to know how I can approach her without making her feel uncomfortable. Please help.
2006-07-25 02:31:31 · 11 answers · asked by Inquisit 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know your dilemma. I too have dated older women, in fact, I PREFER older women. I'm 27 now, but have dated Ladies in their 30's when I was 22 and on up, unless I was our for a quicky. I once dated a beautiful lady who was 40 when I was 25. And it really is one of the BEST relationships I ever had. Anyway, I find it very easy to approach older women, easier in fact, than young broads who are stuck up. Older women are much easier to talk to, they will actually carry the conversation or pick it up if you stumble. It is so much easier to get acquainted with them. I guess at first, it is somewhat difficult to approach ANY woman, but take the shot. You already suspect she has an interest in you, so half the work is already done, think about it. My experience has been that older women love the idea of having a 'young stud' and WON'T take advantage of that. They just like to feel they still have 'it'. And some do. They will treat you like a king, really. I wouldn't worry too much about the age difference in the future, like when people say, "what about when you are 45 and she is 65?" Take this moment to moment. No one is thinking about marriage when they first ask their new boyfriend or girlfriend out right? DO NOT BRING UP SUBJECTS THAT FOCUS ON 'HER TIME' Like the music of 'her day', or peoples opinions if they were to see the two of you together...anything that points out the obvious differences!!!!! Trust me, you can be very comfortable and relaxed when you begin to talk to her, she will not be a smart *** or sarcastic like younger women sometimes are. Good luck man, it'll be alright.
Do me a favor would you? If things go the way you want them to, drop me a line and let me know if I was right or wrong about this. I'm curious about if this is just me or if others also see a difference.
2006-07-25 03:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is really very sweet of you. I think that if you want to start dating an older woman then you need to appear mature- there is nothing worse than having a conversation that doesn't lead anywhere. She would most definently be into 80's music: I would start of with Blondie, she's great. listen to her album and just talk about her style and stuff. The 80's was a good time for movies as well- but its mostly reknown for its music.... good luck.
2006-07-25 02:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question just gives me goose bumps. :) If you think she may be interested, she probably is. She's older though and not going to be like ANY girl you've ever dated before.
Be yourself, flirt, be kind and considerate. If she's going to be attracted to someone that much younger it'll be your "boy-ish charm" that gets her.
Anything you all might have in common would be a good ice breaker to start a conversation with. If she's interested she'll meet you half way with the conversation part of it. Then you'll know. :) Good luck! ....and I'm jealous...23...cool beans.
2006-07-25 02:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by daisylane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an older woman and I would be very uncomfortable if a young man approached me. In this day and age, I think it makes the older woman look like a bad person if she sees such a younger man. Just go slowly. Maybe she will make the first move.
2016-03-16 05:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out a topic of interest that you share in common and start talking to her about that. Be it music, politics, sports, or a hobby. The important thing is to get her to talking and being comfortable around you.
Unless she desire you strictly for sexual purposes a woman with experience tends to be interested in more than how you look.
When you talk to her look into her eyes (as you gain experience with this you will learn how to flirt exclusively with your eyes).
When she is talking ask questions (showing her you are paying attention and interested in what she has to say).
Figure out a way to make her laugh (if she is laughing she is at ease and a lot more likely to be receptive to you overtures).
2006-07-25 02:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by dscot399 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask, but don't be upset if she just can't go there. i have young guys asking me out, and i do view it as a compliment, but can't because some of my sons are younger than them, or close to their age. i just feel kind of like it would be dating one of my sons. not everyone feels like that though, she may be someone who does not feel that way. people tell me i'm silly for feeling this way, and i probably am. age is after all, just a number.you do have to remind yourself of the age difference, however. would you still be attracted to her when she's 63, and you are only 43? 73 and 53? think about it. that's what i do. i don't want to be hurt when i am into my declining years and am no longer good enough, no longer loved. that's why i say no, but thank you for the compliment. you have to look down the road.
2006-07-25 02:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by Debi K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Music is always a good spot to start.
She was into late 70s and 80s music. Begin with INXS, as they were in the news for a new frontman. See where that takes you.
2006-07-25 02:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by being mature, but fun.. Not stupid.. Then just ask her what does she do for fun? Or watch the movie.. How stella got her groove back? good movie for that situation..
2006-07-25 02:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by tracienmark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking politely and intelligently
2006-07-25 05:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ron K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, hi grandma? Wanna have some fun?
2006-07-25 02:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋