Your parents do not like your boyfriend who you have been with for the past 8 months.
They say if you want to carry on seeing him that you have to move out.
He says no way can you stay with him, he really doesn't want all this drama!
He's 31 with his own place and business, it's not like he hasn't got the money to help you when you need him most.
He doesn't really know if he even sees you both together this time next year, would you get your place or would you rent out a room you can't really afford or would you dump him?
2006-07-25 02:30:23 · 23 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like someone's playing with your heart dear!
hes 31, has his own business, own place... and tells you theres no way you can stay with him... ?
well hes defintely not serious about you...
think a lot before you do anything drastic i would say. people often forget to be real when they are 'in love'...
2006-07-25 03:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading this my instinct tell me to dump him He doesn't really want you for if he did then he would help you firstly to calm the situation with your parents maybe talking with them showing respect that way letting them see that he is serious about you .The fact that he said he doesn't want drama, he don't want you staying with him and the icing on the cake he cant see you both together this time next year hello wake up and smell the coffee he is putting it to you gently he is not serious about you and parents can often smell that
2006-07-25 03:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by jaci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old are you Sam? You parents are looking at the situation with their minds, based on their experiences in life. You are looking at it with your heart, which is blind. I got myself into a lot of trouble by looking at situations with my heart rather than my mind. If your boyfriend was wanting to progress, he'd welcome you in, rather than saying he doesn't want the drama. If after 8 months he doesn't know if you'll be together next year, then in the end there isn't a future there. If you look at it from your mind it makes the most sense to stay at home. Save as much money as you can, then you can move out. You will never have an opportunity to save as much as you do when you're home. In the grand scheme of things it's just a couple years out of your life rather than struggling to make it. You'll be ok, your parents love you just it's hard for them to see you with someone they feel doesn't want a future with you. Overly protective, but better than not caring.
2006-07-25 02:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say stay with your parents and stay in school. When you fiinish school and got yourself a job, then you can move out.
As far as the good-for-nothing bf, I'll dump him. If you can't count on him now, when can you count on him? I mean, he's 31 with his own place and business, he should be able to help you out, but he wont. Dump him, right now!
2006-07-25 02:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Karmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
If he's the kind of guy to like girls that are of the age to be living at home I can't see he'd be around for much longer. In five years time he'll still probably want a girl that age and you'll be...five years too old.
Move on.
2006-07-25 02:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by Fatboy_Howie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like for right now you two need to be just friends. Give it some time and maybe in a few months you will be in a better financial situation to make a change, but don't force it.
2006-07-25 02:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He def isnt worth the hassle but if you are old enough to have a relationship with a 31 yr old i think your old enough to find somewhere of you own to live. Then you wont be dependent on anyone other than yourself!
2006-07-25 02:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by augustina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him girl! It sounds like he would rather see you living on the street than in his house, you don't deserve someone like that! Go fishing...the seas a really BIG place!! gud luck x
2006-07-25 02:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by Snow White 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he says he don't see you both together next year then just dump him. It sounds to me like he don't want the responsiablity to help you and for you to move in with him.
2006-07-25 02:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he loves you, obviously he doesn't love you as much as you do. you're even considering a flat, which shows you wanna be with him but he lives alone and he can afford to stay with but he doesnt want to. i think he's a nobed, you don't find people like you these days who will do anything to protect their relationship. find another guy, someone who can go through nine hells for you as much as you can go to the ends of the worl for him. you desrve it, good luck.
2006-07-25 02:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by tender-boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋