My boyfriend (now ex) broke up with me a year ago for reasons that the relationship was kinda too much to handle plus his busy schedule, health conditions, and personal insecurities. Said he needed to find himself. We were together for 3 years. We met at church and were in the music team together. He's on the bass guitar while im on keyboards. When we broke he also left the church. And now he's back. ive been hearing news about him.. he isolated himself last year. hopped from one church to another and had been staying home for all those times. there was not another girl. Every now and then we communicated and still had it..love. However, right now, he wants me back. ive said no many times though i really love him, it's just that i want to give it time and i doubt he really loves me. after ive changed my number five times. he finally respected my decision. but it seems that he only SAID he'd keep it friendship but he still really cares as he shows it..i want him to jst try dating others
2006-07-25 02:26:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want him to try dating others because if he broke up with me before then it means he probably doubted whether it was me because he did not trust me enough to allow me to help him get through that hard time he was on when he broke up with me... eventhough i still love him.. it hurts to suppress it but i have to just for him to see things more clearly.. at this point i refuse to accept even friendship that's i changed numbers 5times because ive realized that im putting myself in a very vulnerable position.. im also scared that because this guy loves me.. he probably would not entertain other girls (who could be one) just because the girl he loves (me) is his friend.. but im an EX.. sometimes we get the feeling we still love our ex but we really don't right? but he's kinda really persistent.. we're like doing hide and seek.. eventhough he stopped opening the topic now and treats me as a "SPECIAL" friend, i could feel that he'll pop it up again.. it's scary cause I LOVE HIM..
2006-07-25 03:16:08 · update #1
it's scary because I LOVE HIM but im scared that im probably not the one who can make him happy after all he left me before right? and im scared also that he'll just leave me again..
2006-07-25 03:17:27 · update #2
Unfortunately, sometimes you just have to break the ties and it sounds like that's what you need to do. I know you want to help him through his funk, but sometime people have to help themselves. He won't try dating anyone else until he knows 150% that you are no longer an option.
2006-07-25 02:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you love this guy yet you do not want to be in a relationship with him. Why do you want him to try dating other girls? Do you feel like he needs to have other experiences? If you really want him to be with other people then I guess you are doing the right thing but it seems to me like you want to be his friend more than his girlfriend at this point. It is obvious you still care about him. I think you should just continue with what you are doing. You are not giving him any mixed signals; he knows you do not want to be in a relationship with him. You are just his friend. I will be honest with you it was hard to understand want you wanted an answer about. There are questions I have about the situation that you did not talk about so this is the best answer I can give with the information you provided.
2006-07-25 09:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a lot of issues. Also, what has changed in the time that he was gone that would lead you to believe he would be a better partner and not take off again? It sounds complicated when you say that you doubt he really loves you but then say that he really cares about you and shows it. If you don't think that he really loves you, and it's love you're looking for, then you have your answer. And do you really want him to date others? What if he's happy dating others? Would you be relieved? Then you have your answer, you don't really want to be with him.
2006-07-25 09:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really did love you he would of never broke up with you he should of worked things out with you instead of breaking up with you and trying to find him self he lost what little part he had when he lost you
2006-07-25 09:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds messed up!
2006-07-25 09:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he gave you up.
you should stop worrying abt him
2006-07-25 09:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋