Some may have looked at my other question, but if you love somebody and they say they just need time and space how long should you wait. If this person didn't make it clear that it wasn't about dating others or something like that I would have severed communication for good but that isn't the case and she is honest to a T so I know she means it when she says it's not to see others she said I didn't say I needed space to date others she seamed upset that I would think she was capable which made me feel good. She wants to get healthy, cut some stress, (we had fought a lot), figure out what she wants, and just not have to worry about anytihng I had started to be a tad clingy I can admit that. In this time I have reflected and if we get back together I won't do that it's not worth losing her by me being insecure she has always been true, faithful, and honest. So what should I do and how long should I wait, I love her to death and she did till me she does love me. Nothing is guaranteed
2006-07-25 02:02:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah, nothing you can do right now but wait. There is no time limit on love and the feelings that you have for this person. Just stay available and unfortunately you will have to wait. If you set them free and it was meant to be then they will find their way back. I know it isn't easy but so sorry there really isn't anything you can do at this point but to wait. As for how long well that is really up to you how long you wait. Some people are brought into our lives for only a short period of time and then go right out again. Some stay and are with us for much longer or forever. Only time will tell which one she is but if you learned anything from her be truly grateful for the experience. So sorry not an easy question to ask or answer hopes and prayers are with you. Take care.
2006-07-25 02:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by tabbernanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait exactly 4 days then go to her door and put a rose on in signed her secret admirer. Make sure she doesn't see you do this. Then call her two days later and ask if she has any secret admirers. She'll think you're a geek in a good way. You seem geekish. Try being romantic in geeky ways. Give her space and start trying to get some confidence back in yourself. If this girl doesn't give you confidence, maybe she's not the right girl for you. Are you sure you're not just settling because you haven't had many dates? Go on yahoo personals or americansingles.com and start putting yourself out there. You need to restore your confidence brother! There are girls out there who won't care that you're clingy! Don't go believing that clingy is bad! Some girls really really dig clingy guys!!! Just make sure you're not selling yourself short. And as far as this girl is concerned... the more confident and blase' about things you become, the more she'll start staring at you in better wonderment. It's the old saying... stop trying to hard. ;-) Take care.
2006-07-25 02:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you love her to death and want to be near her you HAVE to back off until she gives you the go-ahead. There is nothing worse than a person clinging to you....it's emotionally suffocating and a good way of having her break up with you.
Hun, nothing in life is guaranteed except death and taxes. You'll have to roll with this one and learn from it whatever the outcome is. Keep yourself busy and try not to dwell on it every second of the day....it's really hard but it's your only option right now. If enough time passes (at least 2 weeks) talk to her again. Depending on her reply you then have the option of moving on if she's still undecided. Best of luck, I hope it works out well for you both.
2006-07-25 02:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she needs time and your love is mutual, then wait. Wait for your girl. If you really love her to death like you said, you would wait for her, no matter how long it takes for her to sort out her thoughts. However, if days become weeks and weeks become months, it's time to let go. If you love her, let her go. If she doesn't come back, it was never meant to be.
2006-07-25 02:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by HotFudgeSundae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You question was too long and after I read it, it doesn't make sense. If someone says they need time, then it's time to move on. Don't wait around for them to come around because they probably will not. It's just a polite way of saying goodbye!
2006-07-25 02:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't be bothered reading all your question but the very last line caught my eye as a phrase that applies to life as a whole and worth bearing in mind. Only two exceptions, of course, death and taxes.
2006-07-25 02:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Gallivanting Galactic Gadfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting is hard, but "if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was".
Give her the freedom to test her wings, and remember if you date someone diuring this time (not that you would, I don't know that) she would find out and you would loose her.
2006-07-25 02:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just move on. you said that you guys fought alot and thats not good. you also put to much emphasis on honesty and faithfulness and being true. Are you all of these things? If not why wear her out?
2006-07-25 02:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just carry on your life... Wait for her to come back to you... Give it 6 months, then if you hear nothing, start seeing other people...
2006-07-25 02:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait one week, then find other dates.
2006-07-25 02:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋