Do you believe time outs work better than spanking?

Question

Time outs never work for politics , why should it work for children.....

Answer 1

I think time outs would work if the parents are CONSISTANT about the whole thing. I think it's harder than spankings. Here is how my husband and I spank our children:

answer: out of pure love-
never out of anger,
never with a raised voice.
Firmly, but not to hard.
with consistancy
I spank my children for 3 things, and 3 things only:
1. Lying
2. Disobedience (I mean obeying your voice the 1st time)
3. bad attitudes

If they got these 3 down pat, they will be very well-behaved children. Very pleasant to be around. When one of these 3 things are broken, I get the paddle (wooden spoon usually), and they must touch the bed, and stand still to get their spankings. Usually about 2 or 3 firm ones. Enough to sting. Depends on the crime. I hate lying more than anything, so they might get about 7 of those for lying. Then, after the spanking session is over, I ask them why they got spanked. They must tell me why, or some kind of communiction went wrong. Then they must say they are sorry, and name the thing they got spanked for. Saying "I'm sorry" is not enough. They must say "I'm sorry for _______". Then I give them a hug, love them up, and tickle them or something to keep the communication lines open. never tell them to go to their room after you spanked because they will just think of reasons why that was so unfair, or why they were right, and you were wrong. Yes, spanking must be administered in love. Never spank for accidents, or things like they are just being kids- such as running around, or being loud or things like that (unless you tell them to stop- then that would be disobeying.) I am a mother of three, and have peaple begging me to babysit my kids because they are happy, sweet, enjoyable children. Perfect??? Haaa!!! NOPE!!! But they are enjoyable to be around for the most part. I love them, and spend time with them, read them books on free time.

Hope this helps- and a key word is CONSISTANT- don't spank them for something one day, and let them get away with it tomarrow. This method won't work. It's not easy, but rewarding.

Answer 2

Spanking a child... this should always be a last resort trust me I know... when I was a kid if all you got was a spanking for doing something naughty, that meant nothing... I remember thinking oh well a smack and then its over with, cos the kid will get used to it, but if you can take something they favor away from them, eg: if they are playing with friends and hurt someone,and u permit them from playing, they wont do that again. Time out is pretty much the same, make sure its a dull corner or area u put them in, if it doesnt work use the spank as a scare tactic, but dont forget the mental abuse that could arise from it too. The other thing is what if u are really furious and hit him too hard? Dont risk that

Answer 3

My brother and I were never spanked and we turned out to be law abiding citizens with great jobs. Imagine that. By listening to some people you would think that spanking is the only way to make a child behave well. How ridiculous.

Time-outs depend on the age of the child. When my oldest was 2, a time-out worked great. Sitting still in a chair for 5 minutes was like the end of the world to her. When she got a little older, we moved to taking things away (like toys, tv, etc.). It worked well for us.

I can't imagine wanting to hit my children because they have done something wrong. My role as a parent is to teach them right from wrong and to teach them why their behavior needs to change if they've done something wrong.

Imagine if in everyday adult life, if your boss could just hit you whenever you did something he didn't like? Doesn't that sound ridiculous? Do you think that would help you learn something? I don't understand why we think our children deserve that treatment. But yet, we are supposed to teach them to not hit other people and to not be violent. I'm not here to scare my children or hurt my children. I'm here to protect them, to make them feel safe and loved and to be their best role model and teacher.

Answer 4

I think it all depends on the child. For some children, the thought of going on time out correctly (no tv, no toys, just sitting there) deters a lot of bad behavior but consistency is key. Some kids need to be spanked because time outs are a joke. Again consistency is key so just the thought of getting spanked is enough to deter bad behavior, then you don't actually have to spank.

Answer 5

I believe that it is the Love which is above these 2.

but some times in few situation very rarely spanking works better than time outs.

Answer 6

Definitely, as long as they're done correctly and consistently. Time outs should be in a boring place where the child can't wander away (gated corner, etc). The time out should last one minute for every year of the child's age AFTER they stop crying (which can significantly lengthen it). If the child is old enough, he or she should be made to apologize and state why they were in time out. I know lots of people disagree, but I don't believe in spanking at all.

Answer 7

No, timeouts do not work better. I was spanked as a child and I learned me lesson. My 6 yr old hates getting spanked, but could careless is she takes a timeout. She doesn't always get spanked, but when that needs to be the punishment, thats what she gets. And she has learned that every bad action has a consequence.

Answer 8

I don't know what works...I think kids act how they want when they want...we are here for entertaining and maybe get our way once and awhile. I really wonder at all...what we do and how it affects us as adults. Cuz we all know how our parents raised us...but just because we know what we would have liked from them does that mean that if we raise our children that way that they will be good adults...hmmm

I am not sure. I figure if my daughter is polite most of the time, helps me clean most of the time...doesn't talk back too much...I hope for the best. Really I don't think it's going to matter either way, I think she is already at age 4 who she is going to be.

Good luck...

Answer 9

it depends what the child has done wrong. Sometimes time out to think about what they have done wrong is appropriate. Other times a short sharp shock works better, like a slap on the hand when they go to touch the fire for the umpteenth time and it is hot. I'd rather it hurt a bit when I slap thier hand for it than it burn their hand off when they touch it. that was they associate the fire with pain and wont go near it.

oooooo gonna get some negative for that now!! oooo she's a bad mum slapping her children!!! oooooo!!!! I do honestly beleive that when they don't listen to reason, a short sharp shock does the trick. Like I said, it depends on the reason behind it.

Answer 10

not even close...children can't sit still for more than a few seconds..everyone knows that...now if you count the time out from the time when they stop whining and moving it may work slightly, but I doubt it....a spanking is immediate...and gets the point across better..i'm not saying to beat them, or to use a belt...but a whack on the butt is much more effective.

Answer 11

I grew up in a spanking household, but timeouts seem to work better in mine. I've tried both with my four children, but I reserve spankings for truly heinous offenses.