can inmates who are serving life sentences with no parole able to get married?

Question

I live in the uk and have had a prison penpal for some time he has asked me to marry him and move to the states where i will then be able to have visits with him.He tells me he can get married and that me obtaining visas etc will not be a problem.Does anyone know what inmates rights are regarding this I'd be so greatful for any replys.

There is no way I am doing this for a visa,I happen to be very happy living in the uk,I have just set up my own business,I have had several unsuccessful relationships with men from the uk,I started out having a prison penpal for friendship but it has developed into love.

Answer 1

Yes, an inmate serving a life term is allowed to marry. You can find details and ask specific questions here http://prisontalk.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=&f=126
I have no idea how old you are, so forgive me for writing as though you are very young, I just want to make sure you know what you're getting into when you move from "penpal" to "mate"... see all these folks judging the situation without knowing either one of you? Get used to it, if you marry an inmate, that contempt will be a permanent part of your life...people can't seem to help themselves, and may even think they are doing you a favour. Babydoll, I don't know your jailbird, so I can't make any comment about whether or not he'd be worth waiting for, but I can tell you this, with absolute certainty: Loving an inmate is a VERY HARD ROAD....it's about slogging through endless paperwork, it's trying to keep up with rules that seem to change every week, it's waiting for incredibly expensive collect phone calls that might or might not come and when he doesn't call, praying with all your heart that the phones in the day room are just either too busy or broken and that he's not hurt or on lockdown, it's becoming obsessive about checking your mail and the heartsick feeling that comes over you when the letter you want so badly isn't there,it's about getting writers cramp and spending $20 a week on stamps and stationary,and like I said at the start, it's about either keeping it secret or dealing with disapproval of the relationship everywhere you turn, it's sleeping alone and cooking for one and never knowing what it feels like to wake up beside him and mostly it means living in a future you can't be sure of and that really does take a toll.
If I had a choice, I wouldn't do it, but I've loved the guy for over 20 years and I can't quit now...and I'm almost 40, so it's not as if I'm spending my youth dealing with the Dept.of Corrections...think carefully, Sweetie, it is a hard, hard thing to do and no guarantees.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If you want to marry this guy then go ahead and you cant really beat moving abroad, and the men in the states have got to be pretty nice. So my advice is marry him, get a visa, move abroad and have loads of fun meeting new people, mayb the you'll c sense when you meet some guy whos on the out and can love you for the person you are and not just some penpal who is a muse for the inmate to think about while hes holed up for the rest f his life. and lets face it, America, .......... you can't get much better

Answer 4

Yeah you can get married in prison. But why would you want to marry someone you will never get to spend but more than 2 hours a week with. That is stupid honestly. If you are trying to get a visa find a rich hot guy that isn't locked up to marry. If you are that ignorant to do that for a visa you shouldn't come to our country.

Answer 5

Life with no parole? What is the point in getting married other than so he can have someone to have sex with on occasion? What kind of life is his wife going to have, knowing he's never getting out? Why would you put yourself through that? Never truly being able to be as a married couple...he's apparently not a real groovy guy or he wouldn't be for LIFE.

Think about what you are doing...there are so many other and better alternatives out there...don't toss away a chunk of your life on someone who chose to toss away all of his...

Answer 6

Please tell me you are not serious! An inmate serving a life sentence without parole is most likely a cold-blooded murderer. You can't possibly want to marry someone like that. Think of the life (lack thereof) you would have. Cut off the correspondence now and find yourself a nice man to share a life with.

Answer 7

yes they have rights,but ask yourself is this what you really want.You will neaver get lots of time together,what with him on the inside and you on the outside. Is this the life you really want. What if you want children,i dont think prison will allow you to spend the time to have kids. And with having a life sentence looks like to me,he might have took a life. so he'll have rights to marry,but you both wont have the same rights has a married couple.

Answer 8

Yes, they can get married, but why would YOU want to do that? Can't you find a guy with some sort of future? Whether it's here in the states or where you live, don't you want to be with someone that will do things with you, like vacations, raise children together, grow old together? Think about it very seriously!

Answer 9

yes they can....the do then in the prison chapel...but not all prisons allow conjugal visits, so you may never be able to consummate your relationship....I agree that you should follow your heart, but there are so many men out there who you could truly have a life with..you'd come here and marry a man you can never build a life with, and you'd have no friends or family here..that's such a lonely way to live..please think it through ALOT more before you do it ok?

Answer 10

Don't listen to these idiots. Follow your heart.

Inmates can get married, it depends on the rules of the prison, and ultimately the final desicion rest with the govenor.