I feel terribly sad. I'm a pretty girl, but I have a very low self-esteem and a weak self-confidence. I am so scared of being in love with smb, and that's why I try to avoid getting involved in a relationship. My ex bf and I had been together for 5 years, he cheated on me with my best friend, and since then I have this fixed idea, like an obsession that all guys are going to cheat on me. I suffer a lot because of this.
Now I have a new boyfriend (we have been together for about 1 month now) but I don't feel OK. I like (maybe love) this guy, but I'm so scared to let it go. We fight a lot cause I have this fixed idea that he's going to cheat on me. I can't help it.
What can I do to improve our relationship and above all to improve my self-confidence, cause I'm not going anywhere like this.
Please help. Please tell me what can I do. Or there is no way to get out of this terrible feeling?
2006-07-25 00:32:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to TRUST your boyfriend. You two are together for a reason. If he says that you're the one he wants to be with, believe him! My ex also cheated on my best friend.."no baby we need to wait until we're married..." and then I find him screwing my best friend. Not a pretty picture. I know how hard it is to pick yourself up after something so devastating like that. But life goes on. Its hard, but you have to learn to trust your boyfriend. He didn't cheat on you. Your ex did. You are amazing. Don't you ever forget that. We ALL deserve the best things. We all deserve respect, honesty, trust and love. Hang in there. Its going to get better.
2006-07-25 00:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are attracted and stay in bad relationships because they feel they don't deserve any better. You are a valuable human being. Get every self-help book you can find and work on finding validation and self-love. I once was like you, I know. Years from now you will be surrounded by people worthy of you. You will look back at this and understand ... that this was merely part of the process of where you will be. Oh, if you only can comprehend all this possibilities before you. And how much you have to look forward to. God be with you on your journey!
2006-07-25 00:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
if all u told us is true u need to tolk with new boy friends and tell him every think in your mind and see if he help you and stay with you to feel better and be happy
2006-07-25 01:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by mutherswafi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to boost ur self esteem. try thinking positive.
Never think that ur bf is cheating on u.
U can talk it over with ur bf.
Well u may need counselling but........................
2006-07-25 00:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by PrAt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love yourself. pamper yourself and trust your bf. if you are scared of getter hurt then stop thinking about it. it is called paranoia
2006-07-25 00:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by luvdoctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being Paranoid
2006-07-25 00:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by chiefbrino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋