Ok, so myself and richard have been together for almost a year. We're totally in love.
He's got this close female friend called Kerry. They've always been kinda close (like to the point of wrestling and stuff) but recently I've found myself getting really jealous of her - and for this reason...
I feeel like she's turning into me, like somehow she's becoming my replacement - I was upset the other day when I went round to his house and found all his old family photos on the lounge floor - he'd been showing them to Kerry. Before this, i know that I was the only one to have seen them for some years. And for this I felt privileged. Other things too - me & rich have always loved films by Baz LUhrmann - and now he's watching them with her, and she'd buying soundtrack CDs and stuff. Its nothing in particular, just little things. Things like he's got a new car without a CD player, so I said I'd make some tapes with him - and the next thing he's made them with her.
What should I think?
2006-07-25 00:24:53 · 5 answers · asked by amyeighteenlancaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK what you have got right now is a huge case of your gut instinct telling you something is wrong. Trust the instinct - I can look at this from afar and say - well, so yeah, well um.. Cd's Baz Lurhman; that doesn't mean anything. But then I would be like your friends who say "Oh, you're being silly, it doesn't mean anything" IF you feel weird, then it's weird. We don't have our instincts for nothing! And I can't help but feeling he's playing both of you. You suggested making the tapes, but somehow they're making tapes? SO slutty Kerry all the sudden thinks tapes are the way to go? My guess is he mentioned that you guys were going to make tapes and somehow she horned her way in. BUT the bottom line is, if he let her manipulate him like that, there's a problem. If his feelings were absolute with you, he would say "Hey Kerry, Chica and I were going to make tapes, it would be weird if she came home and the songs were done" And Kerry being a good friend would slink out the back door. I am so sorry you're going through this because the reality is unless one of them steps up? You're going to look like the ***** and if they continue like this then you're going to look like the insecure *****
So since youasked, My advice is get alone with your man and ask him point blank. Leave yourself a little vulnerable Say: "I hate to even ask this, but I see you with Kerry and I feel that in many ways you guys are closer then we are and that really hurts me" "I'm never quite sure what if anything is going on with you guys." THEN BOTTOM LINE after the feedack from a little while
"Sweetie, I didn't get together with you so I could feel left out, so tell me, is there something I should be aware of? And then if not, if I'm being sensitive or stupid or whatever, then I need you to recognize how I feel and respect it"
2006-07-25 00:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make restrictions..that is not cool to do..you can't tell someone what to do or tell them who they can hang out with...
Were they friends before you entered the picture?
Try talking to him about it...But I would just let them continue on and if I felt in my heart that he was doing me wrong, I would simply break up with him...
Do you not trust your bf or are you just jealous of her or the friendship they have...If you trust him, then I see no reason why he can't have a friend whom is a girl...
2006-07-25 00:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are getting jealous of the closeness stuff then start making restrictions. you have the right girl coz he is your man
2006-07-25 00:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by luvdoctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smell a two-timing rat,dump him
2006-07-25 00:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by William B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may think wat ever u like ...
2006-07-25 00:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Manis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋