Im 20years old and have been with my bf for 2 years now. Throughout this time
we have not had sex but we have been intimate. Upon asking him the other day why he always refused to show me his penis he responded with ' I will show u when you learn to to appreciate it more.'I asked him what he meant by that but he said that he meant exactly that. At the time i was a bit affronted by his choice of words but now i am just confused. What did he mean by that?
Thanks for reading this..I know its a tad silly
Cheers
Zara
2006-07-25 00:14:37 · 18 answers · asked by Zara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No im not a muslim. I live in Australia and have had a strict upbringing; i.e single sex catholic schools. Im not refraining from sex because i think its immoral, its because he is my first bf(well, the first guy friend i made really) and im kinda shy.
2006-07-25 00:40:55 · update #1
What a prick! I 1/ He is joking. 2/ He is a weirdo. 3/ If you are not having sex for religious reasons, he was just teasing you and telling you that you will have a lot of his penis after you marry.
2006-07-25 00:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to know what he really means by that. If I was you I would sit down with him and truthfully tell him you don't have a clue what he meant and get him to explain it to you. I would probably even go as far as refraining from even being intimate with him and wait for him to ask why you don't want to be. Then he would have to try to explain what he is feeling inside. I believe open communication is what keeps a relationship alive.
2006-07-25 07:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by pq4u72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious talk with him. If you have shown him intimate parts of your body, he should not object to you seeing his penis.
If he has proposed marriage to you, you have the right to at least, see what it looks like. No your response and questioning of this behavior is not silly if you are planning a future together. Do not break down and have sex with him before marriage to show "appreciation for his penis", that you have never seen. You need to consider and discuss his intentions for a future with you as soon as possible. Best wishes.
2006-07-25 07:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur name is Zara!
if it is true then u must be a muslim.
It means that u must not get into sex things before marriage.
How can u ever have a boyfriend if u r a muslim???
& secondly if your boyfriend is also a muslim he is just right to do that.
it is not that he is saying "I will show u when u learn to appriciate it."
It means that don't indulge in these things...
However if u not a muslim, what he said to you, means, that he wants you to be mature & be much informative about sex & all that.
He wants that when you go for sex, you know how to do everything & anything else.
means u should know how to perform a blo-job on your boyfriend, or how to do oral sex,
what styles can u both adopt for sex.. etc.
So searh different sites.
see some porno, be a bit mature, learn how to seduce ur man,....
He wil definitly go for it unless he is shy or inconfident...
2006-07-25 07:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by just curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is wierd i never heard this. well i bet he is insecure bout it and was not blessed down there.so hes small and might think if u seen it u will go.have u felt it is it big or what. u get intimate u can pull for his penis u know. so yeah try that next time. a guy who dont want sex somethings up.u should be confused but ur doing nothing wrong. hes just insecure i think.
2006-07-25 07:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have no fraking clue what he means by that. But it sounds to me like hes really insecure about his unit. If you guys have been together for 2 years he should feel comfortable around you to do pretty much anything, other wise maybe you 2 arent meant to be.
2006-07-25 07:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sas-n-Frass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Zara, You said that you been intimate....... and yet you havent seen his and hasnt seen you either .......... what sort of an intimacy was it DID you ever say anything which offended him and he decided to not to show it to you ever...........you been together for two years which is by no mean a small period. Try and recall if anything ever happened or said about his........
And once he shows it to you LOVE it......... PRAISE it and he would show you more often.
Have fun!
2006-07-25 07:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what he mean but if you are for 2 years together speak with him but not when you are intimate but some time other...tell him that you are confused and that you want to have an honest relationship and solve th confiusion with him..not us....
2006-07-25 07:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by Crogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only thought is that maybe you've been satisfied with the level of initmacy up until this point and he doesn't see a reason to go further. I'd be confused too, especially as he won't explain himself.
2006-07-25 07:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by lrad1952 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like this relationship will be ending soon
why would you ask him that.? what do you show him?
you seem hung up on having sex,,, why is that
2006-07-25 07:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋