broken heart?

Question

i have split with my boyfriend after 4 years.its been 3 days now.i felt he didnt care anymore and wanted 2 seeif he really did.but he hasnt contacted me yet..our bith signs are bothe cancer...should i call or wait....i love and miss him so much it hurts.?

Answer 1

A guy comes begging when you don't get in touch with him.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter what star signs you are - mens time clocks are so so different from a womans. After not hearing from your man for say 3 days, a woman panics, but to a man that is nothing - don't call him, if he want's you back, he will get in contact with you - you can't push these things. Try going out with your mates and bumping into him (just by chance), look really gorgeous, and you will make him see what he is missing - most men like the chase, so just wait a while before you do anything that you will regret

Answer 3

If you have already split with boyfriend I dont see any reason why you still expect him to call or talk to him. I know you have been together for 4 years. But even couples who have been together for 10-15 years do separate. It's just sometimes despite of all the time and sweetness you have shared it's still not a guarantee that you will be together forever. So the best thing for you to do is to fix yourself...and be get ready to move on :)

Answer 4

If it was you that finished the relationship its you that has got to be strong. I know its going to be hard but Mr right could walk into your life at any moment and there is no complications, try looking at it from a positive point of view it may help. Also if you really cant bear to be apart from him wait a week and if you still feel totally cut up then ring him, it may make you realise why you finished it in the first place Good luck babe hope all goes well and you meet that special someone soon, just remember all good things come to those who wait!!!

Answer 5

If you dumped him then you cant expect him to be the one to get in touch, think about it if it was the other way round would you be calling him? You need to know one way or the other so you can get on with your life. Call him and tell him you dumped him because you didnt know if he cared, find out if he wants to keep seeing you and if he answers yes then you need to sort out the issue of you feeling unloved unless you want this to happen again. Dont take any crap though you deserve respect. At least by calling him you can find out whats going on and either move on from him or sort things out together, not knowing is making the situation worse. I know how much it hurts i have been there, and in a similar situation. For me it was over but at least i knew and could start healing, which i did. I thought i would die from it but i am very happy now. good luck xx

Answer 6

You mentioned that both of you guy's star signs are cancer, then you both are doing the same thing, you want to see if he doesn't care by not contacting you, he wants to see if you care or not by not contacting you, one of you has to make the first move, i suggest you do because what you guys are doing right now is playing mind games which can be very emotionally draining.

My advice, call him and tell him how you feel, chances are he will tell you how he feels.

Answer 7

You split with him and I'm sure you had good reason to. It hurts so much because you spent four years together and you know that if he truelly cared for you, then you wouldn't have had to break it off with him for the reason that you did. If he truelly cared for you and wanted your forgivness, he would be bashing on your door with flowers and chocolates while singing I Swear (By Seal) at the top of his lungs at this very moment. That's why it hurts and you miss him so much, because you now realise you were living a lie. I know this because it has happen to me a few times. I just broke it off with my boyfriend 2days ago for the same reason.
It's harder for you then for him.... because he doesn't care as much as you do. Do anything you can to stop yourself from contacting him...... I find a sexy dress and a night out on the town work wonders :)

Answer 8

well hun it seems your test to see if he cared has backfired on you - I know you felt that hed prove how much he loved you by contacting you immediately etc etc but the fact he hasnt can only mean one of two things:
1-you were right andhe doesnt care anymore
2-hes hurting very much and doesnt feel wanted by you seeing as you dumped him
I would text him - tell him you're missinghim and why you took the action you took. If he doesnt reply then leave it be and dont waste anymore time or heartbreak on him

Answer 9

i was with my ex for 5 n half years, wen we finished i felt so empty, sick and distraught, even tho i finished with her, i didnt really want to, we remained friends but we needed time on our own as it was too raw at the time, 3 days u r bound to b hurting, u may b for a long time yet but u will move on from it, learn from it meet some one really suited to u but dont rush into anything as it doesnt fill the void, i hope u r succesfull in lookin for your happiness, it will come, this is only if u feel it is really over, if it isnt then give him a call drop the pride and tell him u love him, it wud b worth it in the end

Answer 10

breaking up with him wasnt the best way to tell if he cares or not............you should have just asked him!! you must be feeling pretty broken hearted right now right?? well times that by a thousand and thats probably how he is feeling. you cant mess with peoples emotions. if you truely want him back then contact him but you have to be prepared for the fact that he may not want you back. he may be too hurt.

Answer 11

If you broke it off with him-you have to think why you did this & if you want him back you will have to make the 1st move cos he is probably licking his wounds right now-I know I was when I was dumped & the last thing I wanted to do was get in contact with my ex-think long & hard about why you broke it off