l was with my guy for 2months before l slept with him.
l was 18, he was 12 years older then me. He was the only guy l've ever been with.
When times got hard and my folks wanted to kick me out after 8 months of being with him cos they didn't loike him, he turned me away.
We carried on seeing eachother for 2 more months and had planned to go to his brothers wedding together for weeks.
l get a txt from him 5 days before the wedding saying l cant go with him because he's meet someone else.
l really really loved him and was so hurt by all this.
Our sex life was fantastic, very dirty.
He used to film it and we were really naughty.
Was l just he's s l a g?
l had met his family and friends in the past.
He told all his friends l was great in bed.
l'm a nice girl and never slept about or done drugs or even drink.
He's made me feel like l was just his tart to have fun with until something better came along.
l feel so down. l'm a good girl who doesn't deserve to be used.
2006-07-24 23:49:05 · 19 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your not a tart, you just fell for the wrong guy and got treated badly and coz you loved him you accepted the way he treated you even tho you knew it was wrong. it doesnt matter what the sex was like, if he was the only guy you've been with then you cannot be classed as a slag.........no matter how 'dirty' the sex was.i think you just need to move on, forget him and you will find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
2006-07-25 02:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You were his tart until someone else came along. He made videos of you having sex with him, told his friends that you were great in bed? Please I don't wish to offend, but were you born under a turnip? This guy was a real jerk and If I had been your parent I would have done my best to get you to leave him also. I wonder what you did to finally cause your parents to turn you out.
If I were you I would go to my parents and ask them for their forgiveness for how badly you treated them,. Love and mature relationships are not all fantastic sex and video tapes. Maybe when you ask your parents to forgive you, you might also ask them to give you some advice about romantic relationships.
I only answered this question because I care about you and you don't need sympathy, you needed some strong talk.
God bless you. It's good that you're not pregnant and your life isn't ruined, you've just had a hard lesson.
2006-07-25 07:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were used and that's very sad. I'm not surprised you feel down.
You don't sound at all like a tart to me. Just a girl who was in love and naive and let her guard down. That's how we behave sometimes when we are open and innocent.
Nearly all of us learn the hard way. I certainly did! The first cut is the deepest as they say.
Next time around you'll enter a relationship with more caution and be more guarded. It's a bit sad but very necessary to guard your heart.
If you go out with a man in future and he tells his friends about your bedroom activities DUMP HIM FAST. Be on the lookout for bad behaviour and hold out for as long as you can before having sex (this can help to weed out the users at the outset).
If it helps think about Paris Hilton. I don't believe she's had half the men she's supposed to have had (gossip and jealousy is a terrible thing) But when she was 19 she was involved with a guy in his 30s too and her bedroom film got out on the internet. She's had to live that down and isn't nearly so trusting any more.
Life is hard, but you are older and wiser now. You'll get through this.
2006-07-25 06:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid it sounds like you have been used, the minute you left home(or were asked to leave) he turned his back on you as he wanted fun, not commitment. Dont beat yourself up over this, you thought you were in a stable relationship and are entitled to do whatever you like in the bedroom, You are not a tart, if thats true all women who have a good sex life are tarts!! Forget this loser, he will die a lonely old man whereas you will meet a nice man and be very happy. Learn from this mistake,You sound like a really nice girl if you werent then you wouldnt be worrying about this. Best luck for the future xxx
2006-07-25 07:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a pig!!
This guy took advantage of the fact that you were young and impressionable.
You must of really trusted him to let him film you having sex etc, he has broken your trust and made you feel like it is your fault.
I think you should move on and (i'm not being nasty by saying this) stick to some guys your own age, or maybe just a little bit older, until you have experience on how to handle relationships and different situations.
From what you have said, i definitely wouldn't say you were a slag, so keep you chin up, have some fun, and good luck!!
2006-07-25 08:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Little_Chicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he's 12 years older than you, i'm sorry to say that you were used. but there's no reason for you to call yourself a tart. you're young, naive, & he's older & much more experienced than you are. he knows how to sweet talk you into anything coz he's gone through a lot already, he's lived his life far off longer than you have. & he knows how to mold you & make you do anything he wants coz he knows that you love him & probably don't want to lose him. but reality bites, sooner or later, when he finally gets bored with your fling, for sure he'll be looking for someone else, either another fling or either someone his age, that is if he wants to settle down. i can't blame you for hurting too much, coz you invested your feelings for this guy & never did he give anything back to you. meeting his family & friends doesn't make you special, like i've said, he's much more experienced & he knows what you want to think that he's serious with his relationship to you. besides if he really did have any feelings for you, he won't be telling people that you're good in bed?! what was that?! fine, he can tell his BEST friend, but not to everybody! nobody deserves to be used. it's just that you were blinded by what you felt. so next time, be more careful in choosing a guy. learn from your mistakes. be wise.
2006-07-25 07:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by kevkatz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a s l a g, it does appear that he has taken you for granted and used you for his own fun and something to brag about to his friends.
you obviously fell in love with this guy and want to give him everything, you shouldnt put yourself down.
you have done what 99.9 % of other girls have done in the past when they first fell in love and done things to "turn on" there partners and to try something new.
I hope you kept hold of the videos and didnt let him keep them and show them off to his friends.
He seems a really sleezy guy!
I think that this is the second time you have put up this question, he must have really hurt you bad, I hope that if you are still seeing him you should consider dumping him ASAP and moving on to someone better.
You are worth far more than being some sexual toy for a randy old man who really should know better.
And you need to get a handle on your life and turn things around for the better, dont waste your life with this guy, life is far bigger and better than that!
2006-07-25 07:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a simple fact of life that people are either "givers" or "takers".
In your case it sounds as though you were the giver & he was the asshole.When there is such an age gap, as there was in this case,its expected that the sex should be terrific,however,sex is something private, between two people & discussing your attributes,in bed,with others is the act of a sleazeball.You are probably now feeling rejected & a little low,however,try to see this as an opportunity.Go out and mix with other people you like,take your time and be selective.Also,count your blessings for all the positive things in your life & I assure you that things will get better.
Good luck, Mike.
2006-07-25 08:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you really got the short end of the stick... The only advice i can give right now is: Try not to make the same mistake again.. when you meet someone again( and you will meet someone again) be a bit more careful...
2006-07-25 06:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by japjongetje 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People treat us how we allow them to. You maybe should have put your foot down and said "Don't talk about me to your friends, I don't like it". If he carried on doing it you should have dumped him as he sounds like a no good, dirty scumbag and you are best off without him.
Go and find yourself a nice lad who will treat you with the respect you deserve.....and next time watch the way you are treated and be in control of that! Good luck, Xx
2006-07-25 06:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋