l was with my guy for 2months before l slept with him.
l was 18, he was 12 years older then me. He was the only guy l've ever been with.
When times got hard and my folks wanted to kick me out after 8 months of being with him cos they didn't loike him, he turned me away.
We carried on seeing eachother for 2 more months and had planned to go to his brothers wedding together for weeks.
l get a txt from him 5 days before the wedding saying l cant go with him because he's meet someone else.
l really really loved him and was so hurt by all this.
Our sex life was fantastic, very dirty.
He used to film it and we were really naughty.
Was l just he's s l a g?
l had met his family and friends in the past.
He told all his friends l was great in bed.
l'm a nice girl and never slept about or done drugs or even drink.
He's made me feel like l was just his tart to have fun with until something better came along.
l feel so down. l'm a good girl who doesn't deserve to be used.
2006-07-24 23:24:53 · 12 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good girls don't deserve to be used... but hopefully you will learn to recognise jerks from now on.
You need to learn to expect all men to be the same as your ex (lets call him jerk boy) in future. They come across as wonder full, sweet, brilliant, romantic and make plans for your distant or not so distant future together. The problem is that jerk boy acts like the man of your dreams, because he wants everything from you that the man of your dreams would get.
Don't ever let another man video tape you having sex with him again..... do you realise that these men sell them on the Internet? He has told all his friends that your great in bed right? Well maybe they would pay to see that? I know it sounds horrible and incredibly low, but honey you can never underestimate jerk boys.
2006-07-24 23:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What a nasty piece of work you ended up with with. At 30 he will never change how he treats people. You have made a mistake, that's all - you are not the only one!
You are very young, and have a good life ahead of you. Make it your business to put it behind you, it will be hard I know after such treatment, but don't allow this scum to affect you in any way, apart from the fact that you will never fall in the same trap again. Repeat to yourself you deserve someone who will not only be good to you but for you, and will adore you. Find people your own age and have some fun, stay a good person and he will find you.
Good luck, and do something happy. x
2006-07-25 00:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart!! That is such a shame. All I can think to say is, because this was the first time for you, you gave this guy all your love and had fun with the sex and really threw yourself into the relationship body, heart, mind and soul. He is a bit older, and a bit more experienced and, no doubt, more hardened and cynical when it comes to these things.
But you did the right thing going for it, and you gave him a wonderful opportunity to have the wholehearted love of someone. It is right to feel bad about the break-up, because he didn't value your love for what it is worth, and that's really painful - as long as you don't feel bad about yourself.
When I was younger - I had a succession of relationships with people that I thought really 'knew me'. But, in truth, all they did was reflect back at me all these things about myself that I felt insecure about: really unhealthy. A lot of this negativity came from their own low self-esteem.
Then I met my current partner, who is fantastic and really grounded and someone I really admire. We have been together for five years now and from day one he has always made me feel like a really good valuable person. I spent the first year of our relationship waiting for the 'scales to fall from his eyes' and see the real me. Eventually I realised that what he sees is the real me, and the real me I want to be.
I guess what I am trying to say is, when you are looking for a partner, look for someone who is happy with themselves, who has qualities you admire and want to nurture and support. Don't try and fix a broken person - you often overestimate the 'transforming power of your own love' and it rarely ends well for either of you. No, find a partner who is happy with who he is and looks at you and sees all the good in you, who loves and appreciates the wonderful qualities you have, and wants to support and nurture those. That is what makes a good relationship. IMHO.
Sending you love and light.
M x
2006-07-24 23:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by ^~^ Dracula's bottom set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just check if this guy was no prono film producer....rather than a lover.....and trading those pics on net or somthing, be careful of such jearks, and why cant good gals find guys of same age who wld match frequency and not play around wth emotions or exploit? Am sure the guy was only there for ur cheery
2006-07-24 23:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel down and cheap. Just keep away from him and guys like that, you're too good for that. Spend time with your friends, find urself a hobby, have fun, meet other people. You'll get over him.
2006-07-24 23:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly for me best pal 1st is going to significant Carlos (sorry carlos)2d Barry Robson And third between Flood and Adam Fcuk Oracle i forgot about Davie Doods yet in sayin that how ought to ye wi a face like that
2016-10-15 04:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alleluyah! You are finmally getting the picture. Yes he used you, yes he wasn't worthy of licking the dirt from your shoes. Now learn from this, listen your parents more often and good luck with the rest of your life. Love will come, and it will be someone who adores you.
2006-07-24 23:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do girls always go for the nasty guy? he sounds like an immature creep. forget him. try a nice guy - if you can handle to boredom lol
2006-07-24 23:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was definitely using you and didn`t treat you with respect, loose him he`s not worth it you don`t deserve a jerk like him. happy hunting and good luck
2006-07-24 23:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by mickylicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad ,he's just a jerk,just cause you love to have dirty sex ,dont mean a thing a lot of people do,but dont admit it.
2006-07-24 23:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by general_pain_in_the_ass_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋