How do you get a date if you are painfully shy????

Answer 1

If you want to change your personality completely for the sake of someone you want to date, this answer probably won't do you any good. First ask yourself why you're shy. Is it because you tend to say or do things that often got silent responses from some people and you just choose to not talk because you're afraid to get that same reaction from people? As long as they're not silly, irrelevant things, but they're sincere things that reflect your personality, you shouldn't change what you say or how you act. If some people don't like what you have to say or the fact that you don't have a lot to say, I would just avoid these kinds of people. You want someone who appreciates everything you say and do, even if it isn't a lot.

Some people were brought up by fairly loud, very opinionated people, who don't care too much of what other people think, and some people were brought up by people who are observant, only say things they truly want to say, and who are soft spoken. Neither of them are bad, they're just different. You can't help how you were brought up.

If you don't want to be outgoing, talkative and loud with people you are not familiar with, you don't have to be. If the people you want to go out with prefer to go out with people who have a lot to say and say whatever's on the top of their heads, I would just forget about them.

Some people actually know that shy people tend to be the most sincere, smartest, observant, polite people who actually have a lot to say than most people (because they've been holding it in for a long time), but just haven't because they're insecure about their opinions and worry about how others will react to them. It takes a kind, patient and smart person to see these good qualities in shy people. You just have to find these kinds of people. For you they will be worthy enough to date. I'm sure there's someone out there who has the same exact concern as you do, and they're looking for a person like you to date. It's very important to be yourself and be sincere and genuine when trying to find the right person.

To get a date, if you see someone you're interested in. Strike up a conversation. Begin with a hello, how are you doing, I like your dress or whatever. Try to be friends with her first and just have casual, friendly conversations. Talk about your interests, jobs, schools, funny things that happened to you, jokes. Telling a funny story or a joke is a great ice breaker. Many girls get turned on by a guy with a sense of humor. The point is, act comfortable and if she ignores you, doesn't respond or makes an excuse to leave, forget about her and don't take it too personally. It's her fault that she didn't stay long enough to find out what a great guy you are. Don't wait and expect that girls will come to you. You have to have some confidence and depend on yourself to approach girls and ask them out. Girls love guys with confidence and will make you look more attractive.

Answer 2

dude, be yourself and go charm those birds. they're waiting for you to ask them out. sit back and relax and let your charms do the magic. just ask one out, and and take it from there then, it won't be hard. i was once like that, sometimes you have a problem with, what am i gonna say to her? what should i talk about? but it's really natural, you don't have to plan the conversation otherwise you'll turn to be a joke when you forget. come on mate, don't back now, shy is a sign of enlightment, just open your eyes now and let the words come out.

Answer 3

You don't so you get over whatever it is that makes you painfully shy.

Answer 4

If you want to change your personality completely for the sake of someone you want to date, this answer probably won't do you any good. First ask yourself why you're shy. Is it because you tend to say or do things that often got silent responses from some people and you just choose to not talk because you're afraid to get that same reaction from people? As long as they're not silly, irrelevant things, but they're sincere things that reflect your personality, you shouldn't change what you say or how you act. If some people don't like what you have to say or the fact that you don't have a lot to say, I would just avoid these kinds of people. You want someone who appreciates everything you say and do, even if it isn't a lot.

Some people were brought up by fairly loud, very opinionated people, who don't care too much of what other people think, and some people were brought up by people who are observant, only say things they truly want to say, and who are soft spoken. Neither of them are bad, they're just different. You can't help how you were brought up.

If you don't want to be outgoing, talkative and loud with people you are not familiar with, you don't have to be. If the people you want to go out with prefer to go out with people who have a lot to say and say whatever's on the top of their heads, I would just forget about them.

Some people actually know that shy people tend to be the most sincere, smartest, observant, polite people who actually have a lot to say than most people (because they've been holding it in for a long time), but just haven't because they're insecure about their opinions and worry about how others will react to them. It takes a kind, patient and smart person to see these good qualities in shy people. You just have to find these kinds of people. For you they will be worthy enough to date. I'm sure there's someone out there who has the same exact concern as you do, and they're looking for a person like you to date. It's very important to be yourself and be sincere and genuine when trying to find the right person.

To get a date, if you see someone you're interested in. Strike up a conversation. Begin with a hello, how are you doing, I like your dress or whatever. Try to be friends with her first and just have casual, friendly conversations. Talk about your interests, jobs, schools, funny things that happened to you, jokes. Telling a funny story or a joke is a great ice breaker. Many girls get turned on by a guy with a sense of humor. The point is, act comfortable and if she ignores you, doesn't respond or makes an excuse to leave, forget about her and don't take it too personally. It's her fault that she didn't stay long enough to find out what a great guy you are. Don't wait and expect that girls will come to you. You have to have some confidence and depend on yourself to approach girls and ask them out. Girls love guys with confidence and will make you look more attractive.

Answer 5

If your painfully shy how do you reckon to survive that date?

Answer 6

get to know someone through work or mutual friends for a while, if you seem to get on and are both single, suggest going out as friends and see what happens. alternatively try a bit of 'dutch courage' or else flirt with an extrovert till they ask you

Answer 7

fear, pain, shyness all of there things are states of mind , they are not something you can physically hold and are in your head. If you feel that being shy is coming in the way of how you chose to live your life then all you need to do is to Choose not to be shy.

Its all im your head buddy, conquer your mind and you will have all.

Answer 8

U look advantageous to me,i could provide u a 8/10. And u could choose for it rapidly! Dont wait to long to make a circulate, if u wait she could finally end up having a boyfriend! U would be advantageous, yet u could no her extra proper ... if u do it too speedy ... properly, she wont like u!!! good success!!! playstation .. Dont be embarrass of attempting, extra proper than no longer noing.

Answer 9

my bf was painfully shy and we met online. we started texting and i asked him out.

he's not as bad as what he used to be but still v shy.

Answer 10

first practice on whors.
& ask them to get naughty with u.
this way u will gain confidence.
& then ask ur girl for a date in a confident way.
like

Hey girl! wanna go for date??