Assuming that you have 4 wife can you be fair to all of them?

Question

In terms of finance, your spouse sexual needs, love and etc. Will you love your younger pretty slim wife rather than your old fat smelly wife? Can you be fair.

How about if the husband cannot to fulfill the wife sexual needs, impotence or many more should the wife have the right to have second husband

Answer 1

If you base your affection on their appearance, then you don't really love your wives, you are in lust with them.

Answer 2

Historically, most of the prophets married more than one wife christians and jews know about prophet Abraham'story with his 3wives.Abraham had 3 wives in the bible: Sarah, Hagar, and Keturah. (In book of GENESIS)

-Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. (1 KINGS 11:3)

-David had many wives (2 SAMUELS 5:13 i see Polygamy one of of the proofs that muslims only have the true religion of GOD -the religion of all prophets-because only Muslims practice Polygamy

Permission to practice polygamy is not associated with mere satisfaction of passion. It is rather associated with compassion toward widows and orphans. It was the Quran that limited and put conditions on the practice of polygamy



There is no doubt that the second wife legally married and treated kindly is better off than a mistress without any legal rights or expermanence



The Quran says, "you can marry 2 or 3 and up to 4 women if you can be equally just with each of them" (4:3). Since it is very difficult to be equally just with all wives, in practice, most of the Muslim men do not have more than one wife. Prophet Muhammad (P) himself from age 24 to 50 was married to only one woman, Khadija. In the western society, some men who have one wife have many extramarital affairs. Thus, a survey was published in "U.S.A. Today" (April 4, 1988 Section D) which asked 4,700 mistresses what they would like their status to be. They said that "they preferred being a second wife rather than the 'other woman' because they did not have the legal rights, nor did they have the financial equality of the legally married wives, and it appeared that they were being used by these men."

Answer 3

If you can be fair with one you can be fair with any number. I once heard it argued that as far as wives go 1 is inadequate to a man's needs, 2 will fight, 3 will gang up 2 on 1, so an orderly household requires 4. As for sexual issues, that's what concubines are for

Answer 4

I am a 2nd wife of three.
Fair, yes.
But, you can not be equal to ALL in ALL areas.
Which is why we are called humans.
BUT you can be what they individually need and truly be fair. Which I think is better than the limited areas you mentioned because no two (in this case 3) people are alike and the way it REALLY is is that every ones uniquely individual needs are satisfied.

Answer 5

i think its an immoral and unethical act! its selfish and irresponsible to have more than one wife. arabs (am one) are the best in the world to abuse systems!
there is no resonable and logical justification (at this time and age) for polygamy. even allah (god) said that no one will be fair in polygamy!!!

this practice in some ways might have been benificial centuries ago, when divorce used to lead to disasterous results; for example, a divorced wife would have had no means to support herself nor her children, so remaining married to her husband garanteed her safety and survival. however, things are different nowadays. women support themselves, sometimes even support their husbands!

muslims need to adapt to modern times through free thinking, free practice of religion, and ofcourse democracy (what ever that may be). one way to start is to re-evaluate the old iterpretations of the quran and to create new ones. the quran is a wonderful holy book; however, it has been vulnerable to political forces in the past, so did the bible and taorat!

Answer 6

in fact our Quran says the answer to ur question..it says "u will not be fair" but a man can get married only if he has good reasons to do that..what is happening nowadays is not complying with the religions spirit..people misunderstand and miss use holy scripts ..

Answer 7

I know I can't hence I am not planning to marry more than one.
Islam is actually one of the only religion I know of who's holy scripture gives you a minimum and a maximum number of how many can you marry.

Answer 8

lets ASSUME that u treat ur all wive equally.
but still there will be some kind of jealousy beetween the 4 wives.it is because they shall feel that my husband gives more imporatance to the 4th one because she is new for him .on othr hand 4th wife will think that 1st wife is given more importance as she knows him more than me.BAsically its the nature of women that makes them feel jealous.
and u should not possible to luv give equal importane to fat n slim wife . its jus that u have to b true with the promises u made while nigaah(marriage).the promises that u maded in front of ur ppl in front of allah.
anyways those who wanna keep for wives will justify themselves that he keep all his wives equally happy -but its a total lie abd god knows it.in urdu/hindi it is said jinko apni baat sahi therani ho ,woh kaise bhi usse sahi therate hain ,chahe woh saach ho ya na ho.means those how wanna proove themseves rite proove themselves rite anyhow,even if they are actually rite or not.

Answer 9

you can never be at least to whom you hate just to be faire divorce her.and to advice you see beyond that image the reality and purity of heart before you regret.and to be totally fair when you take your decission warn your wife first.

Answer 10

no but if you are muslim you can devorce that older wife and get a new one with a few words