She deliberately keeps chucking her toys over the fence and it's driving me mad. Luckily we have a lovely neighbour who keeps himself to himself and he laughed when I went round to apologise this morning... but I am sure it must annoy him and it REALLY annoys me.
2006-07-24 21:39:11 · 29 answers · asked by dashabout 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My neighbour throws the toys back, I don't usually even have to go round to say sorry.
2006-07-24 22:43:19 · update #1
Next time she does this collect the toys without her knowledge and hide them. When she asks for them back just simply tell her that the next door neighbour had given them to another child as he didnt know who they belonged to. Then tell her that she cant keep doing this as she will have no more toys left. As she is proving that she wont do it gradually introduce the toys back. Good Luck
2006-07-25 06:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by fairylandk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is playing a game here!!!
and im afraid your neighbour is aiding the game by throwing them back. Next time she does it. Go straight around there and take her with you. Get her to apologise to your neighbour (she will then see she is doing wrong by having to say sorry) Once the toys have been handed back to you. tell her in a stern voice that she must not throw the toys over the fence and if they do go over again your neighbour will keep them. Im sure your neighbour may be willing to do this to stump out the behaviour. then give them back after a few days. A few days is plenty long enough. It seems like ages to a kid. Remember when christmas was a week away but felt like six months. she will then probably got bord of this game and go on to the next..
2006-07-25 08:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Beckie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the most normal thing. she is making them fly, this is how she sees it. my 1 year old does the same thing only he throws stuff down our stair since he cant get past the gate. It is really weird because it is his favorite toys. sorry, but I think it is cute, you neighbor does also, that is why he laughed. At least they don't have a dog that will chew them up. Try telling your daughter that she will not get the toy back for like w week. that is a long time for her. each of those toys disappears for a week. then she will not have any to put over the fence. this might also teach her about time. good luck.
2006-07-24 22:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can associate negative consequences with throwing her toys over the fence....perhaps try taking that particular toy away for an hour or two. She is very small, but I think she will learn quick enough that if the toy goes over the fence, then its off limits for a while.
2006-07-24 21:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Megs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really doubt it bothers your neighbour he probably finds it funny. When your daughter goes to play outside tell her that her toys will stay over the fence if she throws them. She will test you and the problem will get worse before it gets better but stick to your guns. Explain to your neighbour that you are doing this so he doesnt put them back over, he will appreciate you are trying to sort the problem out.
2006-07-24 23:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing when we moved to our new house, the neighbours were kind and understanding but I only retrieved the toys after my son had gone to bed, I told my son that his toys had gone and slowly he realised that he had less and less toys to play with, eventually he stopped throwing them over then fence, & gradually I put the toys back into his toy box.
2006-07-24 21:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really annoy me too , its a good job I don't live next door - I think kids should be told right from wrong at a very young age, because if you don't you are going to end up with an unruly teenager and believe me you don't want that - take the kids toys away and don't let her have them back until she learns that it is wrong to do what she is doing, kids should take notice of their parents and when they don't it is just a sign of what is to come
2006-07-24 21:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Joanne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my neighbours youngest does this to, over a 6ft fence, it can be quite entertaining! lol (the things that come over!)
i dont think u can stop them, it's a learning curve, what u could possibly do, is ask ur neighbour to collect them for you then give them to u, when she has run out of toys, she'll wonder why. then mention to her that when they go over the fence, they disappear!
not really a scare tactic, just more of a consequence to behaviour.
good luck with this.
2006-07-26 09:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your neighbour to mention during a conversation with you and of course within ear shot of your little girl that he found a lot of toys in his garden and as he didn't want them he gave them away to the little girl up the road. get him to also say that the other child was delighted and is waiting for some more. should do the trick. if not roll on winter and less time spent in the garden. hopefully by return of fine weather she will have grown out of her annoying habit. good luck.
2006-07-24 22:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by ididntknodat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop getting them back for her. Tell her you aren't going to retrieve them anymore and that anything she throws over is gone for good. Then mean it!
For your neighbor's sake, you can retrieve the things when your daughter is unaware, then put in hiding so she doesn't know it is still there. You can then give her back the stuff in a few weeks AFTER the habit is long gone saying it was a one time, last ever return.
This answer is just common sense. Having you play fetch is a fun game for her.
2006-07-24 21:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋