How 2 make my mother happy?

Question

My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.and my wife has flatly refused to try to reconcile.
my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.

Answer 1

srry lukin at ur qustion it feels tat u have realised tat u should do sumthin for ur mom to make her happy after ur wife left away.anyhow may b i can help on this
tips
TO GIVE TEMPORARY HAPPINESS:
do sumthin that makes her feel that u want to do sumthin for her..like try n cook for her,chat with her abt topics which she will like to talk abt,bring her some gift (sumthin wat she would have like to have wen she was not rich enough to purchase it),
TO GIVE PERMANANT HAPPINESS:
if she wants u get married to sum1 then get married to the girl which she like,.i know a similar case like urs. 1 of my aunts wanted to get married to her bf ,but her family memebers rejected that guy n finally she had to marry anothr guy not of her choice .but today she is very happy with my uncle and both live happly .today my uncle is in a very bad condition still she does his seva(service) late in/till night.she realised that her bf was jus her infactutation n not her true luv,mother is happy wen her childer r happy ....

Answer 2

First, talk to your mother. Let your mother know that you respect, love her and you want to make her happy, that you appreciate what she has done for you as a mother, that you are proud of her. Let her know that the conflict is not between you and she. Also, let her know that the problem can be solved if you live separately. I can very well understand the situation you are facing. You are suffering more than your mother or wife. Your mother can live happily in the neighbourhood of people of her age, separately. You can visit her frequently along with your kids and can invite her for festivals etc. Also, you can assure her she can call you / your kids any time to see her. Old people feel very much attached to their children and especially grand children. By living separately the whole family will be happy.
Remember distance increases love and longing (In current situation ,we, at least can expect distance to reduce clashes and bitterness.)

Answer 3

I am not sure if your saying your mom is upset that your wife left or what...but I will tell you one thing for sure...YOU CAN NOT MAKE SOME ONE HAPPY! if we all had that power what a life we all would have. A person can choose to be happy, sad, depressed or what have you. Although if depressed some people benefit from medication. All I can suggest is to let your mom know that you love and care for her and that you appreciate all she has done, sacrificed and done for you and your brother...another thing that I would love to have from my kids is...them to let me know what it is that they remember that was good..what makes them pleased with me, when was a time that I was good for them in their time of trials...just put together a little note book for her with some information that if you had kids of what you would like to know. Did I fail them? Did I do right? Just little things make a big difference. Don't wait because she can be taken away from you in a heartbeat. I lost my mom when she was 39, I am ever grateful that I know my mom knows that I loved her and appreciated her in every way possible. I wish you well.

Answer 4

One think u should underestand is that even if u get marry to a nice and caring women who even like to take care of ur mom , ur mom will still hate her so this is somthing that is created inside them. My mom was nice and caring women but the only think that she never couldn't stand were the wives of my brothers . even one of my brother divorsed his wife b/c of my mom. so if she leaves by her self in separate visit her and try some times to make her sit on some where and wash her feet with worm water and tell her that u love her and will be there for her b/c Motheres deserve more than that but don't let her ruin ur family , mothers always do that.

Answer 5

If your wife and mother are fighting you need to step in and set boundaries for you mother, it is your wife's home. Lots of people have hard lives, stop feeling sorry for her like she will break in half if you say no to her running your wife out of the house. As far as making her happy goes, that is her job not yours. If you want to make her happy move her into a nearby apartment facility with people her own age. They offer an array of activities for the residents and have hair dresser, Dr's and nurses if you mom needs assistance. The aren't nursing homes, just regular apts. I can't remember the name of them, Stuart Anderson from Black Angus has some assisted living communities. And your mom as much as you don't want to hear it is a grown woman with other needs than criticizing your wife. Your a big boy now, your wife is the one you need to make comfortable with you.

Answer 6

i think you shold pay more attention to her
to go for a walk,or to do some things that she wants
take it to some beautiful places
my mother is happy when i do everything she wants
so you do the same thing ,for now

Answer 7

i can tell that you love your mother and want her to be happy...why don't you talk to her about this, ask her opinion...ultimately, you have to find your happiness because you can't please everyone else all of the time...besides, if your family is anything like mine...your mother will be happy when you are happy...

Answer 8

Tell her you love her and that you appreciate everything she has done for you and that you want her to be happy, that she deserves to be happy.

Answer 9

kiss here hands every day ..

Answer 10

Shag her