last night my boyfriend and i were talking about was how he works alot and doesnt tell me he is working and how i get upset because i cant get hold of him for a whole weekend sometimes. i then asked if he wanted to break up with me and totally unexpectadly he broke up with me. he wasnt harsh, and he cried and wanted to comfort me which i didnt want. later that night we were talking on msn and both couldnt believe it was over, he then began to say he didnt really know why he did it and that his head was all messed up. i want to be with this boy more than anything in the world and deep down he said he does want to be with me, how can i make him want to get back together with me because without him im completely lost. please help me.
2006-07-24 21:20:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you can not MAKE him do ANYTHING he doesn't want to, andshame on you for wanting to! If you truly love him, you should want what he wants, if it isn't you, that should be alright in your eyes. why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want you? Have somepride, move on!
2006-07-24 21:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by walterhawthorneiii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop worrying.. The time you spend worrying can be used productively to think about how to get your guy back..
From what you've said, I gather that the both of you want to get back together.. There is nothing stopping that. Your boyfriend has also expressed his interest in being with you.. If you have issues about your boyfriends work habits, talk to him about it.. Your boyfriend has already said that he does not know why he did it and that his head was all messed up. That, to me, is a sign that he wants to get back with you.
You can get back together with him and forget that you ever broke up with him only if you communicate your feelings to him. Be upfront about what you want and see how things can work out. You need to make your feelings clear if you want a good relationship with this guy. Relationships work both ways. So, first of all tell him that the both of you committed a mistake by breaking up and that the both of you deserve to be back together.
Trust me, the both of you will be back together before you know it..
All the best..
2006-07-24 21:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you feel completely lost but with time you will get over t his breakup, if choose not to get back together.
the only way you will reconcile this relationship is if that is what you both want. all i can suggest is to keep talking without any pressures and see what happens.
the fact that he doesnt let you know about his working situation tells me that he isnt thinking of you or he would tell you his roster.
good luck, but there are plenty of fish in th esea.
2006-07-24 21:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You can live without this person, trust me. You need to give him what he wants. Tell him maybe you need some time too and he will come back to you. If somebody wants to be with you, they will be with you. The best thing to do is give him his space and do your own thing for awhile. He will wonder what your doing and how you are. This will make him miss you and want to get back together. Play hard to get!
2006-07-24 21:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Pam C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually you are still love with your dear right. just need more understanding from U and your boyfriend.
try to understanding your closefriend if u feel he is the one, and try to make a new relationship with him.
if this is not working, there is no ways besides leave him alone. and find good activity to forget him.
world is not too small for u right?
2006-07-24 21:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by isanestik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you putting up w/ some guy who isn't considerate of your feelings enough to let you know he's working? He doesn't know why he broke up w/ you? That's total B.S. You want him back why, so he can make you feel bad. Honey please find someone who's nice to you, cry, eat ice cream, get it out of your system, but move on, I swear there are greener pastures!
2006-07-24 21:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Theavatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you guys are ready for a relationship. Just keep talking and try not to jump into anything.
2006-07-24 21:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Adalina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone loves you, you should never cry, if someone loves you, you should never have to question their love, if someone loves you they would never let a day or second go by without telling you that they love you, find someone who loves you with all their heart and you will know what love really is. move on your heart will heal in time
2006-07-24 21:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u better leave now. these problems keep going in incresing degree.
2006-07-24 21:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just show him how much he realy means to you now more than ever before
2006-07-24 21:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋