Discipline Your Kids!!!! It is not okay for them To be miniature pricks, and throw tantrums at 5.?

Question

kids do not run the show, they are poeple and dont need to have the crap beat out of them to be disicplined. Why is it parents have become so laxed in setting limits at a day and age with the need for them is greatest.

i am raising a four year old, i don't put my hands on her and my parents didn't do it to me.... you can disicpline your child without hitting them. But i have talk to parents that feel that if they dont hit them then there is no other way to disicpline them...its either all or nothing, and its sad becsue I it isn't the kid fault. and there is a difference between a 5 years old fit and a 5 yr old having a 3 yr old tantrum.

Answer 1

No one can spank their children any more for fear of some nosy-poker screaming child abuse. Honestly, parents can't effectively discipline their children anymore. When I was a kid, I got my @ss tanned--a LOT. I was a tomboy, a rough kid, and I needed that kind of discipline.

There's such a huge change in such a short span of time. I sound like an old fogy, but I'm only 30!!

Answer 2

They're so lax because they're distracted and they think that if they do the minimal amount of parenting that somehow the kid will pick up the right behaviors. When they beat the kid they're usually frustrated and angry that he/she has interfered with their plans or something and they're at the end of their rope, so they loose it. Not good parenting.

Unfortunately a lot of parents do not know how to effectively raise their children. There are specific techniques and reasons behind them, based on the age of the child, that parents can use. The biggest challenge to parents is being consistent, giving the kid the same response. Not ignoring him one time then coming down on him the next. That was probably the hardest part of parenting, because the kids have endless energy compared to us.

Answer 3

I agree, kids these days need more discipline. But just to let you know, a tantrum a 5 is actually about the right time, and little late. But yes, people do need to discipline more. How about you tell all of the nosy busy bodies to stop reporting every little thing that people do to child protective services. Then maybe people wont be afraid of that. It has gotten so bad these days that even kids know that they can call and the parents will get in trouble for what....being parents. Those are the kids who need their butts smacked sometimes and a ton of other types of discipline. Good luck with this though.

Answer 4

Amen. I think it is basically society as a whole. You know - when we were kids, we knew that if we got out of line - we would in deed get our butts spanked - sometimes with a hand - occasionally if we really pushed the limit, a switch or paddle - Kids today fear no consequence because it's been drilled into their heads by television/school/whatever that if they get a spankin', it's child abuse and they should call the authorities. Bull Crap! - I think if they still allowed corporal punishment in the school systems and if we as parents, knew that we could spank our kids without fear of getting them taken away - some of the children/adolescents in today's society wouldn't be such little monsters.

I have 4 children - and they all know that just because they get a spanking, doesn't mean that they aren't loved and I don't beat them - there's a limit to punishment. - However, they are well behaved and wonderful children.

Answer 5

Maybe the truth that you do not consider in bodily field is a situation. Not pronouncing it's, simply suggesting. Also be certain that you are now not giving in to her needs--if you are giving in, she's identifying that throwing a have compatibility works. And sure, ignoring the tantrum is helping. I have a five-12 months-ancient son. If he throws a tantrum (that's infrequent) I ship him to his room and do not pay any concentration to him, and he calms down in a couple of mins. Interestingly sufficient, his preschool trainer has advised me that he is by no means thrown a tantrum in school--with a bit of luck it remains that method!

Answer 6

I have no idea why parents won't PARENT. My kids are constantly being complimented for being well behaved. I am strict, consistent and loving, sometimes people make me feel like I should let them run wild "let them be kids". Believe me, my kids are happy, healthy and kids. There are rules in every stage of life that must be followed or challenged and I hope that I am raising my kids to be able to do both and understand the difference. They are still children and have their moments, or days. I enjoy my children, as well as love them, that is a wonderful reward.

Answer 7

Children need limits.
Parents need to learn how to seperate the behavior from the child.
Proper discipline is done out of love not vengeance.
This is done by active thinking.
Unconditional love.
They need consistency and guidance.
We live in a society of choices. Children don't do things that won't work.

Answer 8

Right let me take this - you children beaters.
1. I have a naughty, but well behaved kid. Naughty because she climbs trees, jumps around and is happy. Well beahaved because she understands when I tell right from wrong.
2. She has never answered back her teacher in school
3. Does here homework
4. She has answered me back, but i did not hit here, merely stopped talking to her and that was enough
5. Communicate with your kids - you and they will be the better for it!
6. Today she is a fantastic 11 year old - could not ahve asked for better!

Answer 9

there are 800 # every where to report abuse to the proper agencies . and when you smack your kids bumm there is a ton of people whom seem to be waiting to break their necks to run and grab the phone to call them . these agencies even frown apon smacking your childs fingers .
very sad , but true .
i think if neighbors would mind their own dang business and let a parent smack their childs bumm when they need it with out grabbing the phone things in this world would be much better .
not to mention the fact most parents dont have time for their kids . they are too self asorbed in their own lives , their own drama or careers and they tend to "dump" their children off on a sitter or day care and then fail to take charge as a way to make up for their lack of time they spend with junior .
i dont think it is just spanking , but parenting as a whole . parents need to be there for their kids and teach them what is right and what is wrong .

Answer 10

because everyone will claim child abuse the 1st time you bust their brat @ss. I have a married daughter and she tried that crap on me when she was 12. "if you paddle me I will call cps". I picked up the phone and she asked what I was doing. My reply I am calling the cops and reporting you as a unruly child and your @ss can turn 18 in juvie and out of my house.

Last time I ever had the problem with her