what to do?

Question

my sister in law is driving me mad!!??we were bestfriends but have not got on for about a year. She was always puttin me down and talking nasty about me to my partners family who have all gone funny with me over it.she has also told her family that i carnt bring up my kids propley and that they are very naughty. she puts my house down two,even know she has not got that much herself. i have told her to keep her points of veiws on me and my childeren to herself but it has not worked if any thing she has got worse and now her family dont even say hello to me or my kids they keep tellin my partner to leave as am no go i have not done anything wrong but i want to say something again but my partner said just leave it as it will blow over but i think she has gone to far. i just dont no what to do please help me if you can!!?!?!??

Answer 1

Stand up for yourself! They don't sound like very caring people, so why have them around your kids anyway. And doesn't your partner have a backbone? Why is he allowing his family to treat you this way? If your a good mother,don't even worry about what they say, if you know your doing the best job you can, get on with it, and don't let judgemental people worry you. Is your partner scared to speak up? If the shoe was on the other foot , and your family treat him this way, how would he react, would he say 'im sure it will blow over'? Don't have negative people around your children, and carry on doing a good job. Show them it doesn't matter what they think.

Answer 2

First of all be cool and firm. Control your temper.
Without exception, tell all the people that you have cut off
relations with your sister-in-law and her family.
Tell the people true reason coldly. If they believe, it is o.k.
If they don"t , tell them that they are free to choose the
option of cutting off relations with you.
Without raising your voice or temper, tell that your
sister-in-law and her family is a sad part of your life.
But you have overcome it, and decided to treat them as
strangers henceforth. Make sure that you do as you say.
Also tell your close friends and family members to tell
this answer to all concerned.
If possible try to shift your entire family at a distant place
which will be away from your sister-in-law. Also rember
not to contact her as far as possible, even in case of very
exceptional occasions. If such occasion forces you to
meet, send some other family member instead of yourself.
- LET HER KNOW YOUR DECISION .

Answer 3

I would tell her to shut the fu2222 Up! What goes on in your house in none of her business. As far as your's and her families go stay away from them all, her included. You make the best of your life for you and your kids. Really what she says is her business and the person she is talking to. Don't let her make you miserable. Besides it really is her problem what she don't like about you, let her enjoy herself having a problem with it. Just because she says it doesn't mean it's true. It is her opinion after all and good for her that she can voice it so she doesn't ahve to look at her own flaws. That's all it is really, like the school bully, she is trying to feel better about herself by being abusive to you. That you don't have to tolerate. Boundries are a good thing in situations like this. Sometimes you have to put your foot down and tell people to mind thier own business. Trust me, you don't have to fight with someone to get your point across. Tell her how what she is doing hurts you and makes you feel really low and would she please not do it anymore. But really stay away from her, bad news and no good to be around. Find someone else that you can spend time with.

If your husband put his foot down you wouldn't be having this problem, but if he won't do it for yourself or you will be dealing with a lifetime of abuse from them.

Answer 4

I'm in a similar well not quite same but was best freinds with my sister in law and now she doesnt speak to me coz I fell out with her brother ( my husband ) for a few weeks my husband doesnt like her so he wont say nothing to her.
It sound like your sister is jealous and your partner should be putting his family right on the way you are and even telling her to back down.
Just ignore her and soon she will get bored being an idiot.

Answer 5

I would just leave her and your hubby's family to their gossip about you and just dont say anything to them if they ask you things or even try and talk to you. Things like this are because your hubby's family are jealous of what you have and his sister might think that you have taken her brother away from her and same with his mum. This can only make you and your hubby strong as he is not bothered about it and make out that is dont bother you either and you will see they will stop as you are not reacting to them. Be strong and dont care what they say, your hubby loves you and your children come first never mind them narrow minded people.

Answer 6

Your partner is absolutely right. If you have done nothing wrong, just let her be. Your actions will show that you are not a bad person. In the end it will be your sis in law that will look bad. Pray to God and ask for patience and humility.

Answer 7

if she has a problem with you that's one thing, but for her and the rest of that side of the family not to speak to the kids is another issue. My sister married an asshole but no matter how much problmes there are the kids never see it (try not to anyway) and the kids come first. Try confronting from that angle, they should feel guilty, and if not then its not worth it. your kids come first.

Answer 8

Stop all contact with them and anything else at all that makes you sad or stressed in life. Look after yourself and stop worrying about them cos i can't imagine they put any time aside in their minds for u. Try and enjoy your own life and create nice new avenues to explore with your guy.

Answer 9

yeah. if your partner love you, then no matter what... at least, you have not done any wrong about them, so be happy.. just show her that you're happy all the time and as if you're not affected, and if she found out that, then she will maybe bang her head at walls. a big walls. lol tc

Answer 10

#1 u r such a fu**ing retard. she has serious problems and is tryin to find some help. give her a proper answer or go suicide.

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I'm sorry, can't help you with this problem. I just wanted to say how stupid the other comment was.