2006-07-24 20:40:33 · 25 answers · asked by Tarpaulin 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I didn't wait on purpose. I have always wanted to have a child. My first husband turned into an alcoholic and I am proud that I avoided having a baby with him. I would not have a baby without a good partner.
Now I have found a great man my own age who wants to be an involved father. If we can't have a natural pregnancy then we will adopt or foster. I am just wondering if I should give it a chance or use birth control. I think my chances of getting pregnant are slim.
2006-07-25 20:48:32 · update #1
I don't see a problem with getting pregnant at 45. The chances of having certain problems with the baby are greater, yes, but not to such an extent that one should worry. Consider this, though. Do you think you'll have the energy and physical capabilities to chase a 10 year old at 55? Do you think you will be prepared to handle a teenager in your 60's? If you think you will, then that is wonderful, and I think you should go for it. My neighbor has gone through almost the exact same thing, however, and while at 45 taking care of a baby was great, she's now pushing 60, and it's wearing on her very heavily. Just something to consider, I hope I was of help.
2006-07-24 20:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by tequila_sunrise452 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I turned 50 my doctor told me I was in the crust of the change of life, all I heard was change of life and I got pregnant immediately!
So many things went through my mind, so many questions. I was thrilled and I was dismayed. This was my last opportunity to have a baby, but - did I want it?
Giving away the child was never a option, nor was abortion an answer for me. I fretted that I might not be a good enough mother and what if something happened to me before the child was grown. What if, what if, what if.
The questions went on in my mind and in my doctors office and I was never satisfied with any of the answers. My blood pressure rose and I was on the verge of real illness, when a child walked up to me and asked if I was going to be a mommy or a grandmother?
It trouble me and she must have seen the confusion in my face. She told me I would be a great mommy and grandmother, it was then my life turned around and I knew that I wanted this baby with all of my heart and soul.
I became more positive and happier. Until I slipped on a patch of snow and lost my child. I was depressed for a while, but God pulled me through and I wondered why I had not leaned on him before.
I think it doesn't matter about the age, if this is what you want then you should go for it. My Doc says that late mothers make the best mothers.
2006-07-25 04:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by north_westner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to be nuts to have a kid at 40 or 45. I know lots of mothers are waiting that long to get pregnant, but think of how old you will be when the child gets out of high school or college!? You might never live to see your grandchildren because if your child waits as long as you did to have a child, you would be 90 years old!
By the time you are in your 50's you won't want to be messing with a school age kid, and when menopause hits, you will be so moody your child will wonder what is happening to you.
Now, if you are rich and will have a nanny, go for it.
2006-07-25 10:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by sherirenee1954 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not that safe and there could be lots of complications and it could leave the kid w/problems or the kids mom w/problems. Either way it takes a toll on the child. Kind of sucky for the kid b/c they'll have a a 55 year old parent when they are 10. People do it though. I would adopt a preschool aged kid and save a kid from falling through the cracks in the foster care system.
2006-07-25 04:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my thought no way at that age if I had my youngest at that age he be 7 now and I would be jipping him of the fun that we had when he was. I could not of done all the fun things because I have arthritis in my hands ,knees, and elbows, I get tired easy now . dont get me wrong I am still active in things I do but the things a young child wants to do . ..... Like I said I think the child would get JIPED.
2006-07-25 04:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by bikerbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your doctor first to make sure that you and/or your baby wouldn't have any longterm health problems. All women over the age of 35 who are considering becomming pregnant need to do this to protect themselves and the life they are considering bringing into the world.
Good luck! :)
2006-07-25 03:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by this_isridiculous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nowadays that is pretty normal. but then agaIn, considering the late age (that is not to say 'old'), it is considered high risk. a woman getting pregnant at such age needs to be constantly monitored by her OB-Gyn at the earliest stage of her pregnancy. the woman must not only take into consideration her own health and safety, but also that of the unborn child
2006-07-25 03:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by vanessamld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the older you get, the more your ovaries have deteriorated. The probability of birth defects rises with the age of the mother, oddly enough, so does the incidence of left-handedness. My friend's mother had him when she was almost 50. He came out fine. I'm just pointing out that the probability of birth defects increases with age.
2006-07-25 03:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are physically able(consult your doctor), I say go for it! One thing 2 consider, are you mentally/emotionally able to handle raising a child? Think about the strain and stress. If U believe U can deal with it , handle your business and don't let others make that decision for you!
2006-07-25 04:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a baby at 45, have a baby. By then you should be well established and secure financially. Go for it.
2006-07-25 03:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋