I Find We Have Nothing To Talk About? Help Please?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 5 months now. Every time we talk our conversation runs dry after about 5 minutes, and we end up arguing when one of us desides they'd rather leave or do something else than talk. It's very stressful, and because of it me and my girlfriend are taking a 2 week break. I hate for this to happen, and I'd like some advice as to what to talk about? how to start a conversation? anything to keep this relationship going. I love her, and when im physically with her, its so easy to talk the entire time. But on MSN and AIM it's difficult.. I dont know why i just feel conversation is easier in person then on msn, but that starts more fights and more stress. Thank you for your help, Ross-

We're 14, and since our parents dont know, seeing eachother is sometimes a biweekly occurance. And I don't think we've run our course, when we're together, everythings great, its just MSN that doesnt work for us..

Answer 1

You should be able to talk to her, whether face to face or not. I wrote to my bf for over 19 months before he came home, then three months later we got married. It was actually a good thing for us to get to know one another through the mail, with none of the physical junk getting in the way (it often fouls up even the greatest relationships). We actually thought through our own thoughts, before writing them down. Often, after reading through my letter, I would remember more to tell him, or try to explain something I had written that didn't sound quite so clear. We got to know each other in a way that many couples don't get to do. We learned patience (19 months is a long time). We learned how to set goals, and dream dreams. If you're having arguments on the net, you need to find out why they're happening, especially since you don't have a problem with up close. Since you've both agreed to a 2 week break, maybe it will help you both see if you're truly suited for one another. Of course, not knowing how old you are, I don't know how mature you both are in your expectations of one another. In any case, it still won't hurt to take a break for a few weeks, no matter how old you both are. Think about living with this for the rest of your life, in the event that this never changes. What tips me off about the maturity issue is the fact that you both don't seem to know how to gracefully say goodbye. And if you're having that tough of a time finding things to talk about, you might not have as much in common as you thought. Think about what attracted you two together. If it's only about sex, I'm afraid you might never find anything else in common. She needs to be your best friend, if you ever want to have a long relationship with her. Think about all of this and see where it leads you. <*)))><

Answer 2

go for a walk together. when you exercise your brain works better. why don't you just stop and realize that you don't have to talk. Just sit outside. If you are not able to handle the silence, then you are not comfortable with each other. Silence is OK. If you are on the phone. Tell her that can't think of anything else to say right now, but if you do, you will call her back. you could also meditate with each other. This is a must for silence. it will also get you used to being around each other in silence. good luck

Answer 3

HAY THERE here i no what you mean about less chatting me and my boi are the same.It dosent mean that you have lost the spark sometimes it just means that your relationship has gotten to the comfy stage and now ye know what the other is thinking listen if you wanna get the spark going all you do is remember back to the start were ye didn't no one another ye were discovering each other you prob took here out more to impress her.now you have to do it again take her to a place ye can discover together were you have not been e.Holiday or a concert or a surfing lesson or to see a play whatever you think she mite like.sometimes us girls 4get how much we mean to ye lads and we need reminding so sweep her off her feet.

Answer 4

Why can't you talk more in person, why msn? I'd go see her, or have her come to you.

Answer 5

Honestly, and this might not be what you want to hear, it sounds like you guys have run your course and its time to move on.

Good luck.

Answer 6

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