I'd really appreciate it if you guys looked at my profile and referred back to that question and answered it...I was hoping for more answers to it and could really use (and need) the advice.
thanks :)
2006-07-24 19:32:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry guys heres the link http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah453_CyGgzDeJl.8hBdcpogBgx.?qid=20060724212439AAVCoFl
2006-07-24 19:36:51 · update #1
because u love him
2006-07-24 19:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Trouble..88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know why you do it, maybe you are scared that if you let your guard down and actually enjoy being with this guy then if you lose him it will hurt so much more. You believe that by treating him badly you wont get as close? Or maybe you are testing him, your ex tret you badly so maybe, deep down, expect this guy to eventually do the same. Only you know why you do it. Sit down with him and have a very open and honest discussion to try and work out what is going on, then you can start trying to fix it. This man obviously loves you very much to put up with this behaviour from you but if you carry on pushing him away eventually you will lose him. Challenge this negative behaviour of yours, maybe some counselling would help? Good luck xx
2006-07-25 02:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god. I started to freak when i read it cause you sound EXACTLY like me. That's crazy! Well, being you know my situation, I do the same thing. I yell and scream at my husband. Hes sweet,loving,gentle and soft spoken. i used to go out with a terrible drug addict who used to hit me and all else withit for 3 years. he really messed me up. It was like a clouded nightmare. My husband is so calm and understanding, i yell at him anyway. Its like my brain is trained to be dramatic and lash out. I shook off most of it, but not all of it. I look at him after i do it and i feel soooooo guilty. Like im nauseous a little. Like ,"Y did i do that?" Help me, too. I hate myself. But yes, it very much is the reason y your like that. You were brain washed. I dont know what to do, either. I think theres nothihng we can do to control it. We should see a counsler. Now, so we dont do this. We are not mean people.
2006-07-25 02:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think you should seek help and counselloring!
First, I think you are still in safe hands and still can turn things around cos you realize that he is a real genuine guy and a catch if he puts up with you and still willing to be there with you till now!
You should thank God and count your blessings!
Did you know that 9000 people die in Africa daily without food?
We should all be glad that we have a roof over our heads and have food and are safe!
Please, wake up now !
Be aware that you can be in control and not let lose control and do crazy stuff that hurt you and him and only to leave you crying and you know what you did!
Don't apologise and cry and be guilty until you realise it! Cos it's too late.
It takes 2 hands to clap. I think your bf loves you enough to tolerate you and put with your abuse.
To be blunt, you are taking revenge on this current nice genuine bf and taking it out on him because of what your ex bf did!
I think you are sick if you are doing this and blame him!
No men and women alike will want to defend themselves against some bad lame lousy men and women who abuse their partners!
Not everyone is the same!
You failed to recognise this and you will lose your bf !
I am blunt but sharp and honest, just to hope you will wake up and realise that all you'd done is wrong and that you will learn to steer clear of the exit that you are pushing you both to!
Bring back the loving you that you once were!
You can do it!
Please, repent now or lose yourself to anger and bitterness and lose your nice bf now!
Why don't you pass your nice bf to other women if you hate him so much? Why torture him?
He doesn't deserve nonsense and abuse from you!
Do you want to wait till the day when your bf tells you "I don't care who is right or wrong! I just don't love you no more! " and storms out of your house and LIFE FOREVER?!!!
Many a times, I think we all hurt those who love us most, especially our family and loved ones.
So please, for Goodness sake, see a counsellor!
I think it's better for you two to live seperately for a while so you can learn to cool down to get back the old you and live again !
It's only fair to you two!
Get real.
Life is too short for you to waste time taking revenge and why hurt your bf who loves you so much?
I don't understand why people put up in a abusive relationship until it's too late?
If I were your bf, I would have left you ages ago cos I won't put up with nonsense and your abusive behaviour.
God bless you and cherish what you have before it's too late!
Go see a counsellor or go to church and get help!
I know it's easy to blame someone or something for what happened to us.
I think we should all ask ourselves first, what did we do wrong to land in this situation!
WHY? B'cos we are all responsible for our own actions and behaviours.
If you recognise something is amiss or wrong, confront it and deal with it ! Otherwise I think you should just walk away from your bf now cos you are not treating him right despite the love that he gave you.
I will pray for you that everything works out for you.
You should just have a good cry and make sure you don't repeat your bad behaviour or risk losing your love forever!
Remember this Old Proverb: No matter how far down the wrong road you've gone, TURN BACK. Before it's too late! PLEASE!
Otherwise the best thing you can do for yourself and him is to leave him.
Heal yourself first so you can be whole again before you love him again ! Be a normal loving woman that you are and one that he deserves, not the devilish you who abuses him! PLEASE!
PEACE!
2006-07-25 03:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur behavior is usual in ur case because any person that go through such experience will behave like that , but u need to try to forget about ur ex-bf,and control ur self. And ur bf must try to understand ur condition and excuse u.
2006-07-25 02:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by Moon_light1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing were said in ur answer profile and there is no ID to check so add a link for us!
2006-07-25 02:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have mental problems and need to get counseling. Why are you hurting him if hes done nothing to you.
2006-07-25 02:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-07-25 02:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by bangkok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't get to ur profile:( please help.
2006-07-25 02:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋