Women: how do you feel about the idea of "friends with benefits?"?

Question

Also, how do you define what constitutes this category of relationship?

If you wouldn't mind, please say your age (or a range). I'm trying to get an idea of how the different generations feel about this.

Answer 1

I personally wish that it could work as such, but it just never does. One gets emotionally tied up with the other and in most cases that would be where I screw (no pun intended) up every time. I do think that guys seem to have this down quite well but then they can be such heartless bastards ha ha ha. Oh yeah and I am 26.

Answer 2

My age is 39. I feel that friends with benefits is a poor way of saying shacking up. That friendship isn't going to last and when you need a woman's perspective it won't be there for you. If you eventually want to have a long term lasting relationship with someone you need to first be friends without benefits, move to the next level which is dating exclusively if both are inclined to go that direction, then up a level, engagement, then marriage. If somewhere in the relationship, the benefits come about it should not happen within weeks of the relationship. It should be months into the relationship, because by then you know the person and know if this is something that might work or not.

Answer 3

I personally can't agree with the term friends with benefits, simply because I know that feelings always arise when there is intimacy involved. At times this may also ruin your friendship. I am more old school as far as morals go, I am in my early 30's. Perhaps you will get a better answer from someone a lil' younger.

Answer 4

I'm 29. I'm settled down and married now.

This arrangement works well with many. Most of my experience is in regard to buisness men who travel. I'd define this relationship as a date in every city. Or someone whose company you enjoy part-time. No strings, no commitment, ('ll call you, don't call me) or someone who would routinely make themselves available to spend time together with you.

I used to work for an escort service in my late teens - early 20's. That's exactly how I would describe the type of relationships I enjoyed with most of my clients.

Answer 5

college age- I think it's a bad idea, and it's not something I would ever consider. If both people are only in it for the sex and there's no chance of either of them falling for the other then it might not blow up in their faces. But, chances are that if they routinely have sex, one of them will fall for the other and drama will ensue.