My son is 20 months old and he has no friends.?

Question

I dont either, really. The thing is he doesnt see kids his own age ever, maybe once in a blue moon.
I am worried he will be the weird kid that dissects animals when he is older if he doesnt have any friends.
Should I put him in day care maybe, for 1 or 2 days aweek.
Also what is your worst daycare experience?

Answer 1

I think that every child needs someone to play with. If your not comfortable with a day care all the time and you want something less expensive check to see if your city has mother day out programs that are at church or see if your city has play groups it would be a good thing for your child and you as well. Also if your a religious person join a church that has a good program from babies and children. Good luck

Answer 2

well where do you live? im sure there are a lot of people that have children your sons age. my girl is gonna be 2 next month and has a few friends. one is 4, 3, and almost a year old. i think as long as your son learns to interact with children older and younger i think he'll be okay in the future with sharing and all that good kid stuff we try to teach :D as far as daycare goes my girl doesnt go right now. i say if you decide to go that route you should check out ALL the daycares in your area you should choose a top 3 or 5 and then go back and learn a little more on a different day. Check their interaction with others and see if you like how it all works. Choose the one you like the best and dont let others tell you different. There are people with a bad daycare experience but every day care is gonna have its quark. Also make sure your son is up to date on ALL his shots so he has a lesser chance of getting sick. Good luck to you and your decision.

Answer 3

I think children under three don't really have "friends", it's usually children he has to "share" toys with. You can put him in day care for a few hours in the morning two days a week or put him in your church daycare while you're at church services. Not only does it help him to socialize with other children, but helps you get out and find friends. I joined a Junior Women's Club and bowling club in our area and founded out that they had children my son's age to play with. So look in your local newspaper and join a group which looks interesting to you. I think the worst daycare experience I had, was the usual thing when kids get together, and that is catching the disease that is going around at the time (chicken pox)

Answer 4

this probably doesnt help but i am an only child. so when i was younger i had no one to play with. I didnt go to daycare but was kept by family. maybe he has some cousins or family members that are young or around his age...but at the same time i dont think there is anything wrong w/ not being around other babies that much at that age. Someone his age will have fun with anyone( whether older or his age).

Answer 5

At 20 months old children don't really have friends they don't really understand the concept. I wouldn't worry about putting him in daycare but make sure you try to get him around other kidsif you can. You could try your local mall (some mall have a play area for small kids), you could go online and try to find others in your area with small kids, sometimes local libraries have volunteers who read to small kids. These are just a few ways ofr him to be around kids his age. Here is a webiste that you can meet others who have kids too:
http://www.meetup.com/topics/cultcomm/parenting/

~I don't have a bad daycare experience because I am a stay at home mom.

Answer 6

do you know of any tot groups in your area? maybe like a gymboree, or music class hosted by the parks and rec department. even once or twice a week for an hour will be good for his socialization. go to parks, too. daycare is an idea if you work.. just make sure you like the place. talk to the other parents and sit in for a day or two. but i wouldn't worry too much about "friends" at this age... they don't really get that concept yet, but being around others his age will definitely help him develop social skills and interaction.

Answer 7

Of course, its always better that the kids have other kids of similar age group to grow with. However, 20 months is too early for you to have so much worry on this subject, as long as you are with him throughout and giving him sufficient company. This is the age when parental care is of utmost importance, kids would not be longing for anybody else than his/ her mother at this stage.

Wait for another 10 months, and he would be grown up enough to be sent to some day care or join any play group. He would learn to socialise from there, don't worry too much on his getting any kind of wierd nature.

I have a son who is going be 4 years in Sep, he was sent to a play group after he completed 2 1/2 years and now gets along with other kids very well. Of course, he is tooo naughty, sometimes very stubborn, may be the results of a pampered single kid.. still he leads a team of friends in his school :) and gets along really well. For me, I have never had any worst or even bad experience from day care. My son used to love going there as much as he loves being with us. Be careful when you choose the day care, and you will have nothing to worry on that later.

Now its time to give the baby good care and attention, rather than worrying too much on how his social behaviour would be. Watch out for the various stages in his growth, and corrective measures can be taken, as an when required at various stages. Do not ponder over that too much now. Relax and watch your apple of the eye growing to a wonderful gem. Be confident!

Answer 8

Even if he doesn't have regular friends at his age, maybe you can take him out to the park or playground where he will have a chance to interact a little with other kids. He's still pretty young, and while it is good for him to be with kids, it is kind of early for other kids to have a great meaning in his life. Still, if you can find chances to put him in a place where he can see and interact a little, that will be good for him. Consider doing a mother-child class or activity that will be interesting, allow him to be with other kids, and possibly give you the chance to meet other moms. It is a little early for preschool or day care, unless it's necessary for you.

Answer 9

I probably wouldn't put him in day care but try finding a play group to meet with once or twice a week. daycare would probably do the trick too but the extra expense was to much for me.

don't worry i do not believe that it will make him weird in anyway at the most it may make for a difficult adjustment when preschool comes.

Answer 10

Actually kids best friend at 20 months is the mother. But you could take him out to the park or spend some time in an activity session with other mothers and their toddlers. It would help him prepare for the future world.