what would you do?????

Question

ok. at my work there is this guy, he's 21 i'm 17. sometimes it seems like he really likes me,and jokes around and stuff. other times not so much. but he gives off mixed signals. i don't know what to do. he's not dating anyone. should i tell him? would that make it worse? do 21 year olds even like 17 year olds. its torchure going to work becuase I like him so much? your advice is desperately needed!!

this isn't just some stupid crush. I've known him for a year. and he's not a creep. i just don't know what to do

Answer 1

If you're planning on keeping your job, I highly recommend not mixing work with pleasure. If you mention something to him, and he isn't trying to give off the signals you think you're seeing, your work environment could be uncomfortable. And IF you two pursued a relationship and it didn't work out, it would make for a VERY uncomfortable work environment.

Answer 2

Since you asked for opinions, here's mine...
You're 17, he's 21. Though there's nothing wrong with there being 4 years between the both of you, at 17, it could very well be a dangerous thing for you. He's of drinking age, which means he can legally drink. You aren't legal, whether drinking or anything else. Yeah, I'm old fashioned that way, but old fashioned still works. My advice? Leave off the dating until you're totally done with your schooling (maintaining a boyfriend gets in the way of good grades) and you've landed the job you've studied for. There's no hurry to get involved at this point of your life. Look around you. How many of your girlfriends have been through one broken heart after another, or have gotten pregnant because of one careless moment? "It's not worth it" says my almost 23 year old daughter. Though it might seem exciting to want to start something up with this guy, I really don't think it's a good thing, at this stage of your life. Keep things light and uncomplicated. If you want to just be friends, then keep it at that. If he asks you for a date, tell him you're not into dating right now, but would consider maybe going to a dance (with others) or somewhere with a few friends (some place public). And keep it that way. If he really likes you, he'll honor and respect your request. It's a good test to see what his real intentions are. It will also help you to be strong and know if a guy is really into you or just trying to get what he wants and move on. If he moves on, then you know what kind of guy he is. This is the time of your life when you should be having fun, not being concerned with broken hearts and what he's doing when you're not around. Don't torture yourself. Relax, and make a plan for your life. Then stick to it. When you have a plan, you won't have to worry about all the distractions along the way. Be good. Be safe. <*)))><

Answer 3

Can you say statutory rape? Even though this law can easily be debated, I think there is a reason it exists. If I know even what I know now about dating when I was seventeen...

If the guy is already giving you mixed signals, could you imagine what a realtionship with the guy would be like?

I consider the following before making a move:
1) You work together - this is a BAD BAD BAD idea.
2) He is 21... can go out to bars and hit on the kind of girls that hang out at bars (in most cases, sluts)
3) Why isn't he dating anyone? By choice... or because he can't get a girl?

Answer 4

Maybe he is being really nice because he likes you as a person and then he senses you like him more than that so he backs off a bit.

OR

Maybe he isn't always in the mood to joke and stuff, and is busy with his work.

OR

Maybe he likes you, but your under age so he keeps going back and forth.

OR

Maybe he is just wishy-washy.

In any case, just keep it on a friend level and if something is to become of it, it will progress naturally on it's own. You may feel awkward if you pursue it without being certain and you find out he's just being friendly.

Answer 5

Try to remember that even if he does like you he is probably remembering that messing with you could get him into serious trouble. But then again you could just ask him and see what he says you never know he may not care that you are only 17 but if he says he doesnt like you oh well you are 17 you will meet lots of other guys in your future.Plus work related romances seldom ever last.

Answer 6

When it comes to attraction, men do not give mixed signals when they know what they want. If he's giving off mixed signals, then you need to find someone who will make perfectly clear that they want to spend time with you. Let the 21 year old pass.

Answer 7

I think you should wait until you turn 18 to pursue this guy. There is a law against adults dating minors and he could get into trouble. Just stay friends for now. Then turn on the charm. Good luck!!

Answer 8

if u really like him let him know... whats the worst that can happen? all he could do is say he'd rather b friends.... Im 16 dating a 23 year old... so the answer to ur other questions is yeah lol.... and telling him wouldnt make it worse... it might make it awkward at first if he sais hes not into u.. but if he sais he likes you too then well.... you have urself a bf lol...

Answer 9

You're too young to be worrying about a guy that old. Enjoy being a kid and forget him. What, is he not able to get a girl his own age? There's probably a good reason for that! One you most likely don't want to find out about.

Answer 10

How long until you turn 18? Flirt with him until your B-day, then for your own B-day present, ask HIM out! It won't hurt to try and why rush things? You have plenty of time to have the time of your life. Don't give up, just be patient and wait until it's "legal" to date him. Good Luck!!!