MEN only please!?

Question

I've been reading a book called "What Men Want: Three Professional Single Men Reveal to Women What It Takes to Make a Man Yours" and it said when a man meets a woman, he immediately categorizes her into one of two caregories: the good-for-now girl or the "marriage material" girl (the girl he sees a future with) and he will treat her accordingly. How can a man categorize a woman so quickly? How can the first encounter determine the way he will treat her from then on? What kind of characteristics makes a girl just good enough to date versus a woman who you can see having a future with and marrying? I understand answers will vary depending on the qualities a man seeks for in a woman. I just want your opinion (in detail) please!

Answer 1

A book cannot generalize that every single man in the world categorizes women. Sure, there may be some men out there that do that, but the man that's right for you would never do so.

Answer 2

Yah, you are right men are unique in taste and preferences!We do not have standard of qualifications,what most men want is to control women,unlike women, most of you has a standard for an ideal man but you always fail because man is more agressive in courting girls rather than women do the first move(only few of you are flirting)No matter what as long as there is a magic that sparkles in man's heart,that would just be next to the first impression which is physical attraction!Most of the man shows all of the best we have as there were always hypocrisy in our personality just to win the woman's heart, then sooner just comes out the natural attitude whe both are in the stage of mutual relationship! I don't believe in prince charming ang perfect partner,it just happen but preferably we have our own ideal girl,but there is no certainty,because as long as we like the girl just for tonight or to become a lifetime partner, we don/t care about the next consequences,what we want is we have the possessions of such the girl that we like or love!Whatever it takes,come what may and women are always aggravated by man's dominant personality!That is why women always seeking for equality!

Answer 3

Its more of a knee jerk reaction in the beginning. When you get to know the girl its things like the quality of her ability to communicate. Her character (likes dislikes). Is she gold digging or is she talking to you because she genuinely finds what your saying interesting. Men are very visual, no not shallow. There has to be some initial physical attraction. No you don't have to be that thin beauty queen that is on every TV or Mag. Beauty comes in all sizes. Men that are ready to marry are also looking for stability in their mate, no not their mother. Someone that they think will be there for the long hall (when things are good or bad). Most men are also looking for someone that has similar views on what is right or wrong (values). They can be somewhat different as this make life together more interesting and it is a good test to both of your ability to compromise. Of course these views are only mine and the answers you get will differ depending on the age of the person answering this question. Good luck....Good question.

Answer 4

first of all i do not like the term all men. you have read some one Else's op ion, read more like love is blind or heart to heart or opposites attract not some men stuff.i am the father of 5 girls and i cannot figure out the selection process and by the way YOU as a women have all the power not some sex hungry men i mean man.my dear old dad told me one day see a naked man on road what do you do, but see a naked women on road and see what will happen. you have all the power so listen to yourself or find yourself not by some mans opinion and by the way i learned this from women not men and any man that thinks he can go head on-head with a woman is nuts and also i read in men's magazine that before you marry a woman go look at her mother and her sisters to see what she would look at their age do you think that is right?

Answer 5

That's a really hard lot of questions lol. Lets see, uhhhh.. Not all men are the same, just like anything in the world. We do share the same habits but we don't' think alike. Usually the category comes in depending on what his looking for at the time, for example. I used to go to clubs and bars, but every-time i was there i found out one thing and that is finding a keep in a place like that is very hard and i have known alot of women who went to the clubs for the same reasons the guys were there for, but that is to general and i don't' like stereo typing. In my opinion depending on where u look, u will always find the same kind of people there. Like when i decided that i was ready for a relationship two years ago, i didn't' look for my wife in the same place i was looking for fast chics..

Answer 6

I've heard a similar thing regarding women, how women decide within 5 minutes of meeting a man whether or not she will ever sleep with him.

Well, I think the book may exaggerate a tad, but of course first impressions are important. At the same time, first impressions are not completely unchangeable.

For me, a girl's appearance helps me determine whether or not there is possibility. However, it is her personality, interests, intelligence, and general compatibility with me that determines whether or not there is any LONG-TERM possibility. If I'm to date this girl seriouslyh, or perhaps even marry her one day, we'd better have something to talk about, and things in common!

There is one bit of interesting irony here; a lot of people would keep a "good-for-now" kind of girl just for the sex. However, for me sexual incompatibility may be something that causes me to think of a girl as "good-for-now". For me, a girl with a lot of sexual hangups and body-image issues that is going to hamper our sex life together means there is little chance of a happy future together. If I'm going to be having sex with this one girl for the rest of my life, we'd better be compatible in bed too!

Answer 7

in the same way women determine if they will sleep with a guy inside of 5 mins, a man can mak a quick asessment of a women, keep in mind the more he dates the more he'll see certain patterns evolve from women, and thus the quick catagorization...
your education, your speech, your dress, your manners ect.. all factor in to the type of women you are and will become and so there are always signs of what to expect ( good or bad )..
dress
dress to nice and you'll read high maintnance *****
dress too poorly and you'll read lack of education, sophisticantion, possibly needy, unorganized
and so on
how you speak will also determine you education level
there are simply many variables
and trying to fit in just for the sake of fitting in may get you in he door so to speak, but you fallback on who you truly are will eventually reveal who you are and that's where he may no like the phoniness, keep in mind men dump wifes when there incomes rises substatially as they can afford to trade up

Answer 8

It's the same way that when a women meets a man she knows in the first three minutes if she will have sex with him

Answer 9

i dont read boks i think they suck,but i do categorize a women into many groups i got!..example i meet you ..depends on how your personality or way being around me and other. them spend sometime studying many diferents thing. like what you do n dont. and so on..ect.. In general we do categorize women but will never telling you we are!..
only the jerks who wrote the books!

Answer 10

book can't tell people how to live there life's but as for finding the right person let your heart tell you what u really feel about that person. each person is different from the other and reading what a book says about life or love well its wrong for all reason or maybe its right for some people.