what should i do?

Question

ok so my fiancee and i have been together about 2 years. we have been livinvg together for a little less than a year now, and for the last three weeks we have been fighting like cats and dogs. she is accusing me of cheating on her while im supposed to be at work, which is not true. she says i am telling her im working overtime, and leaving work and messing around on her. now my paychecks show overtime and ppl i work with have told her i have been at work. she also says its wrong for me to want to have a beer once or twice a week after work, she says that means im an alchoholic. i disagree. we met on yahoo and started seeing each other shortly after in a log dist relationship. eventually we moved in together half way between her family and mine, and now she is saying she wants to move to FLA, which she knows i dont want to do because i dont wanna move any farther from my family... i am at wits end. i love her very much, and want to stay together, but i cant stand fighting anymore

ive suggested we go to a couselor, but she says that, and i quote, "shrinks are for morons" i dont know what to da anymore.... there are no children involved, but she says if we were ever to not be together she would kill herself, what should i do?

we have sat down and talked, for hours at a time it seems like. and no i havent given her any reason to think i have been cheating. i dont go out, when i drink it is one maybe two beers at home. i dont have any friends because the ppl i work with smoke and she is allergic. is it reallly time to go?

Answer 1

Social time apart IS ok. I think maybe she is having a rough go at it right now. Maybe you need to sit down and talk to her reassure her that there is nothing going on and ask her what you can do to make her understand that. As far as the you being a drunk, well do you come stumbleing in at all hours of the night when you go out and have you offered to find other COUPLES to go out with you so that both of you can go out together? The whole FL thing, I am guessing that is where her family is which is why she wants to go and you say no, Well the fact is that moving away from family is a big hard step and if you two MUTUALLY agreed to be where you are then she should stick it out , just make sure that you both get visits home. She might just be a little home sick. Maybe life is not as peachy as she thought either, find out from her what is missing in the realtionship for her.

Answer 2

Hmm, complicated. May be she feels unsecured because of some event in the past. True conversation will help. Explain to each other what is your expectation for the future and the relationship and spend some more time together. Show her how much you love her. And perhaps you should find out about her feelings. Try to be calm and not react under pressure. I am not fun of counseling if couple can deal with it together but if it's too difficult may be it a good way to solve the problem.

Answer 3

oh goodness! signs of PMS! tell her how u feel about moving and if she insists, ask her why. most girls i know accuse their guys of cheating on them for 2 reasons.. 1, they themselves has cheated and is feeling guilty, 2, they feel that they arent getting enough attention from their guy so they kick up a big fuss for no apparent reason.. girls are like that...so just sit and cuddle for a while and make sure u tell her that u love her and stuff... most probably this phase she's going through will die off eventually...

Answer 4

YOU HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM ON YOUR HANDS. AND
SINCE YOU HAVE SUGGEST COUNSELING AND SHE
WONT GO, THEN YOU MAY HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE
BUT TO LEAVE THIS ALONG, FIGHTING LIKE THAT NOT
GOOD. THANK GOODNESS THERE ARE NO CHILDREN
BUT YOU NEED TO LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL
AND THIS HAS TO STOP. CAUSE IF YOU GET MARRIED
YOU ARE END FOR THE SAME PROBLEMS. AS FOR HER
SAYING SHE KILLL HER SELF THAT MAY BE A WAY
TO KEEP YOU THERE. WHICH IS WRONG, AND SHE
REALLY NEED HELP.

Answer 5

she is not secure at all... have u given her any reason 2 believe that u are cheating... me personally, i dont know if i could take someone constantly hounding me for something and im not doing anything... she needs to get a grip if she claims she cant live with out you...she is running you away..

Answer 6

she sounds like the typical insecure gal i just think she feels insecure of herself and she feels like she can lose u anytime!!!and i think the cheating thing is just an excuse for her to show u that she is upset cus maybe u dont spend enough time with her.

Answer 7

dump the wench!