my brother was bribed by his grandparents into moving in with them(he is my half brother).they said they'd give him a truck and ciggarettes.he left us.i was really close to him and i cant hardly talk to him when he does call which is seldom because i want to cry.the last time i talked to him he was in a bar and was coughing up blood.he said he would see a doctor.i guess he's okay now and is living with his drud addict of a mom.they are just alike now.ive been breaking down when i think of his betrayal and i know i shouldn't cry but i do.i'm not a drama queen i just break down thinking about it.he was my best friend then he abandoned me his own half sister.my sister is way stronger about this but i am weak and i tear up over what he did .do u have any advice?
2006-07-24 17:47:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
plz answer!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 17:55:43 · update #1
It is true that sometimes no matter how hard to overcome our emotions,it just won't happen. Whenever we try to be strong, sadness still comes and makes us weak.That only means,we are just humans.We are vulnurable. I also tend not to share anything to strangers but when you just feel that it is all gonna burst out, it is helpful to at least have a way to unload it (just like what you did) and indeed getting somebody's input will somehow make you feel well. You see, there are thngs in life that are out of control. No matterhow hard we try to make things correct for other people, it is still there life and they are capable of choosing for themselves. Just like your half-brother's case. All you can do now is to be there for him. Advise him but when he does not listen, still be there for him. Be strong for your family. For now, it will be hard to accept but when you finally do..you will find out you are a stronger and better person. Sometimes it just takes a little understanding.I'm sure you love your family.Above all..all things happen with a purpose and don't let this problems put you down.PRAY...PRAY...PRAY.God is with you. God bless!
2006-07-24 18:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by justurangel 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In terms of your half brother, there's little you can do. YOu could try communicating with /corresonding with him, if he wants to stay in touch. Or if anything happens to your folks, see his grandparents (?) want to bribe you. But in the mean time, don't dwell on it. Find yourself a good bf and have a long term relationship, and let it eventually progress to engagement and marriage, at any pace. As for your half brother, well, maybe he'll return to your family when his grand parents leave the world.
2006-07-24 18:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids, especially teens, tend to go to whatever household will give them the most freedom and most money. They just can't seem to help themselves. My son and daughter left me to live with their dad, and he definitely was never a parent to them, so it broke my heart. But he let them do what they wanted and he had the big house, so I couldn't compete. That's what's happening to your brother. It's not a personal rejection of you, it's just that he's in a space in his life where he can't say NO to the bribes. He'll have to go through with learning his lessons in life, because he will end up in some trouble from all this, but if he's smart, he'll come out of it with the knowledge he needs to be a strong and independent adult.
2006-07-24 17:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him up and talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Schedule a lunch date or something with him.. where it can be just the two of you hanging out. Write him letters too. Everyone loves getting mail! ( : Smile.. things will get better. Just take it one day at a time.
2006-07-24 17:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by akosmacek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont cry over things you cant change. You cant help someone who doesnt want to help themself. Accept his choice and live your own life or you will miss out trying to save his and trying to go against the fate of things.
Be glad that he isnt bringing the sort of greif to you that he does to his parents/grandparents.Can you really picture yourself having to see him like that everyday?
2006-07-24 17:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow umm... hon dont blame uerself for this ever thats first things first . then go talk to someone about this that can help ease uer pain a bit like a counselor or something ok? sweety feel better its gonna be ok.it just might take him awhile to realize his mistake leaving pple who love him dearly hopefully he will realize this when its not too late goodluck .
2006-07-24 17:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by blueducky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's your brother's decision, he thought of his own good, why don't you do the same? you don't have a life of your own? is everything centred around your brother? you don't have friends? and what about your sister? maybe you are also hurting other people except from yourself when you are all the time thinking of you "bro". and one thing more: welcome to life.
2006-07-24 18:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by stud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him, and tell him how you feel. let him know how he hurt you. but then let it go after. what he does is his decision, you can't change that. you can still love him, but you have to let him go.
2006-07-25 15:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋