A good friend of mine died Friday night in a horrible car accident. Her favorite flower was a red rose. Would it be appropriate for me to take a single long stem red rose to her viewing tomorrow afternoon and palce it on her casket? Do people do that? I have been to very few viewings and funerals.
2006-07-24 17:43:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I feel that is appropriate.
I've been to too many funerals.
I have seen something like this done before.
Peace
2006-07-24 17:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by manofadvntr 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your gesture is perfect. I am sorry for your loss.
Just a little bit of information on "appropriate" behavior: I too lost a friend Friday night to a massive heartattack. Today at the burial his wife and kids put a Diet Coke, Hershey bar and Twinkies in his grave. Those were the things HE loved and we all knew him by.
Celebrate your friend and place the rose on their casket in celebration of their life and your friendship.
2006-07-24 17:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by okiemom67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that would be very appropriate, and respectful as well. We had a girl in our town killed in a car accident, and everyone brought monkeys and pink things to her memorial because those were her favorite. Also one time we planted a tree and sprinkled a friend of ours' ashes into the dirt around it, and some people poured mountain dew in there too because it was his favorite, and one kid threw in a $20 bill because he had owed him money. It makes it very sentimental and is a great way to honor those who have passed. Sorry for your loss,
2006-07-24 17:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by jodirw28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes It would be appropriate. When one of my friends died we ( our group of friends and his family) put all sorts of things in his casket with him. At the job we worked at there was a key that literally opened every lock in the place. Every one had copys of the key. I put my key in with him. We joked that it might be the only way he could get into heaven.
It kind of depends on the family and how well they know you. A rose should be appropriate no matter what though.
Sorry for your loss.
2006-07-24 17:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by lizzardkingone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart felt sympathies for your loss.
Bring your rose, but follow the lead of the family. Their feelings should be regarded as the most important. If no one else lays a rose on the casket, ask the family's permission.
Peace be with you...
2006-07-24 17:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take the rose with me and politely ask the family's permission to do so. I think it is a lovely gesture. I am sorry for the loss of your friend.
2006-07-25 00:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people do. If you think a single red rose would be an appropriate tribute for your friend, then make your tribute, make your peace and damn what the others will do.
2006-07-24 18:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lorne N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be fine to do that. I am so sorry for your loss. Do whatever you need to do and don't worry about what others will think. Everyone grieves in different ways and whatever will help you in the healing process I say go for it. I will keep you in my prayers as well as her family. God Bless
2006-07-24 18:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by rqtpie19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!
2006-07-24 17:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
( that is very sad ) im not shure but i think it will be a good idea. and im sorry for what happened to ur friend. but remember that nobody ever dies, their bodies might stop working but their spiret will alwase live.
2006-07-24 17:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋